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"So for context, I (29M) am married to A (28F) and my wife has been friends with this guy C (30M) for 10+ years. He was best friends with her brother who passed away and they kept their friendship all these years.
And C recently got married and had my wife be the best man. A is a serious planner and gets all the details so it ended up being two of C's friends and a friend of the bride’s husband who is officiating, J (32M).Okay so I’m a plus 1 basically which is fine with everyone because in this small group, everyone is married except for one of the groom's friends who isn’t a major part of the story here. The only people I know are A my wife and C the groom.
We are all having a good time, A planned like certain bars and activities to do and tangents in between and is just sort of directing from place to place. It is pretty chill, after the second bar, we step out on the street to go to a more upbeat space and there is music playing while we are waiting to get in.My wife is dancing in place, we are in a semi-circle and I see this guy J sidle up next to her and start dancing too. I take this as a red flag but not enough to say anything like my wife is a good time and we are all a little tipsy and familiar at this point no big deal right?
As the night continued J kept talking about how cool A is, too cool for this crowd, and is like lightly complimenting her but also like she is above him which I don’t disagree with. She is amazing and the coolest person I know that is why we got married so I take it as a little red flag and keep chilling and talking with everyone. So finally we make it back to the Airbnb and we're playing one of those dumb card games where you drink or do what the card says.J pulls a card (mind you I am sitting right next to him) it’s marry, kiss, or kill and he says “well I’m not gay so you know sorry but I’m gonna kiss A and…” Before he says another word I look at him and say “well you better kill me” and the room got quiet and awkward and they were like “heyyy uh let's move on to another card.”
My wife thinks it's no big deal like I was just being protective although she admits he made some odd comments but yeah AITJ? Was I being like machismo or something?"
Another User Comments:
"NTJ - a little tipsy or not, he was being inappropriate through the night (I believe true thoughts and feelings come out when you’ve had some to drink anyway so I don’t buy it when people try to use booze as an excuse for their behavior), then you guys play a game where he said he’d kiss her - I think it would have been just fun and games if he hadn’t been making inappropriate comments and getting way too close to her, he was clearly making a statement and being disrespectful to you both even leading up to that moment." SippingMyTea1
Another User Comments:
"You’re def not the jerk man. Like that’s inappropriate as heck. And he definitely knew you guys were married or he would’ve apologized and said oh shoot sorry didn’t know or whatever. He just didn’t care. And your wife should’ve said something too and it’s a big deal. Maybe she didn’t want to stir up trouble?
But that’s also not okay. Be open and ask her why she doesn’t think it’s a big deal. Cause if you don’t have the same views on those things I think it’s gonna cause problems. If someone says they want to kiss me in front of my SO or vice versa I would be like bro wtf I’m engaged. And I wouldn’t have let him approach me to say inappropriate things. Like your wife is undermining you." SeaRangingfromwithinAnother User Comments:
"NTJ, good job on your response and putting that guy in his place. So many times I see these scared awkward men watching all this happen and not doing anything. As a man, we all know he was flirting which is unacceptable since she’s married and should show respect.
Any guy with morals would have seen that card as inappropriate and read the room and chose another card. But he didn’t and you had to remind him of his place nothing to it. People saying everyone sucks here or you're the jerk are probably single and lack self-respect. That game is for singles only or talking about people you don’t know not for a wedding party." [deleted]