People Ask Us To Call Out Any Wrongdoings In Their "Am I The Jerk" Stories

"I (17 m) am pretty well off because of my parents. We're not super rich but we have a nice house that my grandfather built and a lot of money due to my grandparents' hard work. My father is the only one that works and doesn't earn that much but the heritage allows us to do nice stuff.

I share a horse with a family friend and 3 other people, I go on vacation 2-3 times a year and I love snowboarding.

4 of my friends aren't really wealthy and they seem to hate rich people. One of them works and the others are pretty much failing in school.

1 friend is as wealthy as me but only shares her cat and the clothes she buys and not her vacations.

I like talking about my hobbies and interests so I'll share some stuff about snowboarding or my horse with my friends. But every time they shut me down and call me a spoiled rich kid.

I don't get how I'm wrong for wanting to share my interests with my friends. Sure it might be boring to them but can't they at least ignore it? It's not like I'm talking about it to them in person, I'm just sending some pictures in our WhatsApp group. And I mean they do the same with their interest. My friend can spam about his favourite video game which doesn't interest me in the slightest but I still read his texts and try my best to respond to them. Is it really too much to expect them to at least not insult me for sharing pics of my hobbies?

I voiced it to them yesterday and they just called me a spoiled brat and said that they hate rich people. The one who works says that I'm living off my parents' money and haven't earned any of my hobbies. He says I've never worked a day in my life and don't know anything about it.

Yes, I don't have a job but I did some internships which were mostly physical work (his job is physical work too). And I work very hard for school while my other friends in school do nothing for it. One has never done his homework and then tells me he does more for money than me. He tells me he would love to work but can't even learn a bit for his exam. He's also thinking about leaving the school and he has already repeated the grade once. And then he shames me for not wanting to work because I'm kinda scared of the work environment and afraid that I won't be enough. They also keep telling me that it's right that I'm not enough because I don't have any skills and only my parents' money.

I asked why they don't call my other wealthy friend rich kid and they said it's because she doesn't flex about it.

But I simply don't see how talking about the things I love is flexing? I'm just sharing pics of my horse and snowboarding. I know that snowboarding is expensive but does that mean I can't talk about it? It really bothers me that they keep bothering me and calling me a lazy spoiled brat.

I genuinely don't know if I'm just talking from the perspective of a privileged rich person or if they're being mean."

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. There's generally no harm in talking about your hobbies. BUT, having been in the spot where an affluent friend often talked about their expensive hobbies and extravagant vacations, I can kind of see where your friends are coming from.

It kind of sucks being reminded that even if I might be interested in these hobbies, I can't afford it.

Also while I get that fear of working, tbh, this sort of comes off as entitled/spoiled because I too don't want to work if given the option.

I suffer from anxiety and some days it's a struggle to get out of bed.

Many people are afraid of being in a work environment but they push themselves to do so because they have to or they won't have food or a place to stay.

I know you're only 17 and so young so I hope this mindset will change. So does that mean you shouldn't talk about your hobbies? No. But maybe choose who you would want to share with. Maybe find like-minded people, like other snowboarders or horse riders. As for your current friends, like your other wealthy friend, maybe talk or share about something you can all relate." constantlypoorish

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. These guys aren't your friends. Luckily you're about at the age where you're about to go to college or university, where you can make new friends.

Their constantly putting you down when you try to share what you love with them says a lot more about them than it does about you. Don't be scared about the workforce, you'll cross that bridge when you come to it. If you really do feel bad and want to pay things forward a bit, you could volunteer at a food bank or something, which could help you meet nicer people, feel better about yourself, and add something to your resume/college applications." Royal_Basil_1915