People Are Convinced We Can Help Them Solve Their “Am I The Jerk?” Dilemmas

"I’m 14f and just last week my older brother turned 18. He is at college a few hours away so my mom, dad, and I got in the car to meet him and give him presents and yeah. I crocheted him a Pikachu. Nobody talked about what we were eating for dinner ahead of time or I just wouldn’t have gone. But when we got there my dad kept asking if my brother wanted to go to Hooters. I'm gonna be honest and just say that it made me feel really uncomfortable. For those of you who don’t know Hooters is this chain restaurant where the whole point is to gawk at the waitresses who are all attractive girls wearing white shirts and little orange shorts. It made me feel really, really uncomfortable and bad so I said that they could go inside and I looked and saw there was a bookstore like a 5 minute walk away so I’d go there instead because I did not want to go. My dad got upset and started screaming at me that if I had a problem I could sit in the car. So I said ok, I’ll just sit here. He snatched my phone and screamed that I wouldn’t need my phone to sit here. I said ok. They went in then about 20 minutes later my mom came out to ask me to go inside with them and I said no, I don’t want to go there. After they dropped off my brother he screamed at me for my actions. I lowkey thought my mom would get it but when we got home she told me that I should have just gone in because it was not that big a deal. I told her that it felt really gross to go to a restaurant just meant for gawking at women with my dad and brother. That if my dad wanted to act out like that he should have just gone with my brother. She said that sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do. Which yeah I get that but I figured that applied more to stuff like having to do homework or babysit my mom’s friend’s kids. AITJ?" Another User Comments: "NTJ. You're right - going to Hooters with your dad and brother does sound like a gross time. I wouldn't have wanted to go either. It's not a family restaurant, they have a target demographic - and you're not it. Your dad's reactions are WAY out of line and sound borderline abusive. I'm sorry - you may want to talk to your school counselor about his actions. "She said that sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do." And hard no on this - this is for stuff like homework, not going to a restaurant whose sole purpose is to objectify women with your brother and father while they eat wings and make inappropriate comments." Discount_Mithral Another User Comments: "NTJ. Genuinely so impressed with you sticking to your values and not going along with misogyny and the objectification of women even under huge pressure from your parents. There’s no way I would have had that level of maturity and strength of mind at your age! Girls like you will change the world." grammarlysucksass Another User Comments: "You felt uncomfortable being there, him getting angry because you disobeyed him sends the wrong message to you. By his logic, you would always have to force yourself into uncomfortable situations to satisfy your father or husband or whomever. You stuck up for yourself and never feel bad for that. Massive respect to you. NTJ." Philip_J_Fry3000