People Spill Their Most Mischievous 'Am I The Jerk?' Stories

"My (26M) brother (35M) who lives 700 miles away approx messaged me 2 days ago saying he's visiting my city for a week for work and he's pulling up on the 4th of September. I responded by saying it would be nice to see him one day or a couple of days but I have quite a busy week that week so let me know when he's around. A few hours later my mum called me and told me I was being incredibly rude and a selfish brother for not immediately offering my brother to stay at my place. I had just assumed he was being given accommodation by his work and she told me that his work thing was only 2 out of the 8 days he was staying and the rest of the time he had wanted to see me, which had not been made clear in his text. I have a tiny flat. It has 2 rooms, a kitchen with a pull-out sofa which is where I sleep, and a bathroom which is just a toilet and a sink. I don't have a shower or bath and I wash myself in the sink every day. I do not have room for guests ever. My mum suggested that I stay with a friend while my brother stays at my place (all my friends have similar living situations or aren't close enough that I could ask, as there is a bit of a housing crisis in our area), or that I pay for my brother's hotel as I am being selfish or that my brother stays with me and sleeps in my bed (there is almost no room). I explained why none of these would be possible and she said I was just offering problems rather than solutions and that I was making it difficult on purpose for my brother but I don't see why I have to drop everything for him to have this trip but he is just guilting me saying he will have nowhere to stay so AITJ?" Another User Comments: "NTJ….Your brother is 36. Old enough to make his own arrangements. And he and your mom are lying. If he was truly coming to see you, he would have called and arranged ahead of time so you could have time off of work. Brother just wants a free place to stay. (And even if you did let him stay with you, no way should you give up your bed. Beggars can’t be choosers. Couch or floor for him.). Stick to saying no and do not feel guilty." Worth-Season3645 Another User Comments: "NTJ. Your mom wants you to move out and give your brother your flat during his "visit"? How did you stop laughing after she suggested that? I thought the plan was to spend time with you. Why on earth would you be responsible for his hotel bill when you didn't even invite him?? If you plan on visiting someone, you make plans with the person BEFORE you book your tickets." cassowary32 Another User Comments: "What the heck? This is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard. YOU should either go stay somewhere else or pay for a hotel for HIS trip simply because you don’t have the space to accommodate? Are people this entitled? NTJ. Also, you know how you and your brother aren’t close? You should keep it that way and probably lump your mom into that group too" TheAnonymoose69.