People Want Us To Be Honest When Discussing Their "Am I The Jerk?" Stories

"My (22f) mom and grandparents passed away a few months ago in a terrible accident and left me everything.

My mom and grandparents were incredibly rich (old money-rich type) so it’s a lot of money.

My parents divorced when I was 15 when my dad had an affair with his coworker.

They had a prenup signed so my dad basically received nothing from the divorce and I lived with my mom full time.

I visited my dad during school holidays but I was never a fan of his new family (the woman he had an affair with and her kids).

Anyway, I’m still processing the loss of my grandparents and mom but my dad wants me to share my inheritance with his stepkids. Dad was fired from his old job after the affair blew up and is struggling to maintain a job. So his living situation is pretty bad.

My mom paid for my university and I’m planning to invest this money and also continue studying (master's). My step-siblings will be turning 18 next year and my dad was saying how they have to get student loans to pay for their college.

I told my dad it’s not my problem because I don’t see them as my family.

And this money is from my mom and grandparents who definitely don’t see them as family. He blew up on me calling me heartless.

His wife is also messaging me asking for money to help them out but I told her to leave me alone because she’s not entitled to anything.

They are now harassing my partner into changing my mind. It’s getting increasingly annoying.

Some of my friends think I can give them just 10% to help them out. Because I will still have more than enough money. AITJ?"

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. That money is yours.

If your mom or grandparents wanted the stepkids to have any money, then they would have left some to them. Please do yourself a favor and block stepmom and step-siblings from your phone.

'My friends think I can give them just 10% to help them out'.

Never, ever, ever, let friends, family, neighbors, random internet strangers, or the clergy be generous with YOUR money. Please, when it comes to money, put everyone on an information diet. Your friends and other family members don't need to know anything about your inheritance. Stop telling people about it." KronkLaSworda

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. They have no right to any of it. You don’t have to share your inheritance. It’s up to you to decide what to do with your money. Your father and your step-siblings have no connection to your mother or grandmother’s inheritance.

That bond was separated when your parents got divorced. What they are asking is ridiculous. The money was left to you. Don’t do what your friends are suggesting. Yes, you could afford to give them 10% and not be affected by the loss. But once you give them anything, they will keep asking you for money. It will never end. You will be seen as nothing but a piggy bank to them.

If you truly decide to help your step-siblings, set up a trust for their college needs that has a set amount in it or pay for their tuition directly to the college.

Do not under any circumstances give them money, they will use you. But again only do this if you want to, it’s your decision and no one else’s. I’m sorry for your loss and I’m sorry the people who are supposed to be there for you in your time of need are being greedy jerks." samk2487