DeniseSB
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Your "friend" is a user. Is she worth staying friends with? I'm having a hard time imagining that a person as meanspirited as she is could be capable of being as generous with you in terms of caring, time, and attention as you have been with her. Do ALL the math and figure out whether she's worth keeping as a "friend."
Anyone who claims that they don't owe anyone an apology after hurting them because they were just "being real" is both a bully and a jerk. They and their opinions deserve no respect because they don't extend respect to anyone else. Whether or not you comments crossed some imaginary line is impossible to tell from the details given here--but I have to say that if you were my kid, you would have had to have used obscenities for me to send you to your room to "cool off." That your mother was joking with your brother about YOUR behavior after HE behaved so badly makes we wonder if he's the golden child and/or you're the scapegoat child. I'm sorry that your family doesn't give you the respect you deserve. Confide your plans in people who love you and support you. Disregard anyone who doesn't. Only you can decide whether the benefits you get from these relationships are worth the downsides. Frankly, I think going no- or low- contact as soon as you can manage it would be perfectly justifiable.
Your fiance's behavior is horrifically over-the-top. My advice is to leave someone who has so little control of his temper and such a high level of entitlement that he thinks he has a right to kick you and your siblings/guests out of your home--even temporarily--over a minor accident. I would understand being upset in the moment and maybe yelling a little bit b/c he was caught up in the moment, but not what he did. (If I didn't take his behavior as a sign I should kick him to the curb, I'd take my siblings home to keep them out of the drama and then take myself back home and unplug the internet again. "If I'm going to get yelled at for kicking you out of your game anyway, then I might as well deserve it. Now, are we going to apologize to each other or do you really want to take this to the next level?"
AITJ For Refusing To Change My Multicultural Accent?
2 months ago
It's incredibly easy to accuse the people complaining about your accent of being racist--and the accusation might be true. On the other hand, not everyone is good at "translating" unfamiliar accents. If you let them know that they can ask for clarification any time they've missed something and you politely re-explain things as needed, you'll all get better eventually at understanding how to communicate with each other. If they reject that offer, then they're being racist.
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