Swansea327
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So you decided, without any discussion from her, that she was "The One for you"....you need help. There's nothing wrong with having feelings for someone, or hoping that someday you'll be together. But she didn't owe you an explanation! Her personal life is none of your business. You're just embarrassed that you made a total *ss of yourself by making assumptions about your (non-existent) future with her. You are absolutely a jerk, and how could you possibly think any rational person on here would agree with you?? Definitely seems like this is a fake post, because I can't wrap my head around anyone being so completely clueless and ridiculous
I don't think you're a jerk at all for telling her that. I used to be a server, and it involves much more than just bringing people food and drinks. As a server, you need to be able to read people's body language and demeanor. It was obvious to me when someone was impatient and just wanted to get their food and get on with their day, as opposed to someone who wanted more interaction. I think she just might not be cut out for the task if she can't pick up on her customer's social cues. Not everyone is good at that, so maybe she needs to move on to some other line of work. You were very straight forward with her, and now it's up to her what she wants to do with that information
You're definitely NTJ! Although clear communication is always the best route, in this case you shouldn't have had to tell him specifically to go wash his feet. As an adult, the moment he realized he was stinky, he should've immediately put his nasty shoes outside, and went to use soap and water to clean himself. He's not a toddler. And the fact that he just laughed when you mentioned it shows his immaturity....and then he acts all pouty and hurt when you WERE specific? I'm sorry, but if someone even hinted that I might have some offensive smell, I would've been mortified. Tell him he needs to stop acting so dense, and just take care of his hygiene issues immediately
Why is this even a question?? Of course you're NTJ! His brother is being ridiculous....and selfish! He's trying to emotionally manipulate you both by guilt tripping you. Sounds like he loves attention, and wants all the focus on him and his wife and kids. And he wants to be reassured that he's "important" enough to make you change YOUR special day to accommodate him. Just tell him where and when the wedding is and leave it at that. Ignore any further demands or drama...tell the rest of the family that there will be no further discussion about the matter....and enjoy your wedding!
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