WackieMom
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NTJ - There are some new Moms that are kind of like "Momzillas", lol. They feel they should be the center of attention and are entitled to all kinds of things due to the pregnancy. She sounds like one of them, her expectations are unrealistic. I would personally just assure her you do care and showed your concern by respecting the fact that she seemed to not want to share the gender, that you didn't want to pressure her to tell her that since she referenced it several times without he sharing details. Then I would consider the matter closed and would not talk about it further, it is kind of a silly reason to be angry. If she wants to be melodramatic and "punish" you by refusing to respond to you until you follow these
unwritten rules of hers, then you just may not be good friends any more.
NTJ - I have a close group of friends and we often make one on one plans with others in the group. I have to admit, it does sting a tiny bit when I hear about excursions I was not included on, but being a good friend and a grown ass adult means behaving maturely about stuff like that and not obsessing over that over sensitive sting. There are often things I want to do that I think of just inviting one person in the group to because of their specific interests or personality traits, it has nothing to do with not loving anyone else in the group any more or less. And there are many people I love that I simply don't have the energy to deal with on an extended trip in tight quarters, lol, and vice versa I'm sure. We all have to respect that.
NTJ - They didn't follow through with updates, this is all on them.
No jerks! It is a stressful time and sometimes people get more sensitive or behave out of character when they are stressed. Reassure her it was a miscommunication and that you harbor no ill will about their elopement, and share the plans you had for the reception plans and gift later. If she remains angry or upset, then she is the jerk and I would tell her because you love her you are willing to put up with her being an asshole in this one instance, but you will be calling her out on that if it continues in the future, lol. But if this is not usually her nature why not just chalk it up to stress, apologize for any pain you contributed in any way, and assure you love her and will absolutely be celebrating this lovely event in her life. This may very well be a gift of grace she extends to you some day when you are stressed out and unnecessarily upset.
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