Ntj DO NOT become a piggybank for these kids. Their MOTHERS can provide.
You are a massive jerk. If she wanted to be a mom then BE one. Dont let the kid think shes the aunt. Too late now. Maybe he'll accept it someday with a lot of therapy but dont hold your breath and leave him alone
Monumental jerk. Didnt your parents ever teach you if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all?
Rules in my house are check your pockets before putting clothes in the hamper, turn printed shirts inside out and separate shirts first because how they are put in the laundry is how they get washed. Your the jerk