rhva
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YTJ ,
Don't get me wrong it's nice that you had a great birthday and loved all of it BUT your friend doesn't want her picture online. Clearly you knew this and you still posted it and are making excuses as to why you don't want to take it down. Here is a newsflash , she said she doesn't want it online , that is her privacy. If she really wants to cause trouble she can get a laywer and force you to take it down.
I can see why you would be scared. And I see some reaction here that are most certainly BAD advice about your husband.
For the love of God people , neither of them asked for this and they are both new to it. Stop judging and give advice instead of putting one person down.
Your partner is trying to get it together and have a normal life. I understand that you are new to this so I will do my best to explain.
Your partner, has no single idea how bad the actual attacks looks for those around them. He most likely doesn't even remember aside from what you are able to tell.
So from his end he can not understand why you are so worried and indeed thinks its nothing to truly be worried about. He is not being a jerk about it , it comes with epilepsie. One thing that does come with it is that he is uncertain ( like some say he should be a man about it ) but you being insecure about it doesn't help him either. While you are still at home, do it together. Have him pick up the kids and do the normal stuff. He needs your help to be more about himself.
Like someone else says , see if your country has a program to help out financially for this. To feel more secure for yourself, get in house cameras that link to your phone. Get one of those alarms that people wear on there wrists and all for him so when he does have an attack it triggers a warning. Another thing for the both of you is little steps at the time. Go have a coffee at the neighbour's and let him take care of the kids. When you feel more secure go a little further away.
I know people say there are triggers to know if he will get an attack. Write it down and find them. This is up to you because he doesn't realize. Structure is very important. Eat at the same time , bed at the same time , medication is a MUST. And try to avoid stress. For example right now the finances might cause stress and trigger an attack. None of the attacks will be the same though. One can be much worse than another. Please google about it. I realize it is a lot on your shoulders but he didn't ask for this either and certainly does not understand what is going when it happens. Try and create space in the house for about the seize that he is. It prevents other wounds as he goes down. And keep the childeren away while and after it happens. Important thing to remember, when he comes out and seems aggressive, this is also not his choice at all. It happens because of the attack.
For those of you who are planning on judging what I am saying. My husband suddenly had epilepsie. I have had to learn it on my own.
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