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NTJ. Your child is nit tte problem but that old fart FIL bas mo right to tell your son men only satly that to their wives. Welcome to today. This is not the 50s where males were not supposed to show emotion or to have or talk about their feelings because that is not manly. I hope your son grows up and continues telling anyone he wishes to tell "I love you:. He's a better man for it. I have a friend who never ends a phone call wuth any of her 3 kudos without saying "I love you". Now mind you they range ftom 14 to 19 snd 2 are home while oldest is in college . We never know what the day may bring. That "I love you" may be the last thing you ever get to say to that person. How heartwarming to know the last words that person heard were "I love you".
No. That is a complete sentence. Pray tell how do the two of them plan to finance this baby and all he/she will need? How do they plan to save money while living with you seeing as they are moving and gave up jobs where they are currently living and have no jobs where you live? Neither has a job and who is going to hire her seeing as she is pregnant . A prospective employer does not want to waste time and money training someone who is not going to be staying around. If you let them move in you will play jerk getting them out.
Keep your phone on you as on a pocket and if he steps inside the shop have your finger on record.
NTJ. Sit Daisy down somewhere other than at your house and tell her not to speak until you are finished talking. Then flat out tell her she is not to come to your home unannounced avd uninvited, especially in the middle of the night, because you and your wife are already sieep deprived and can no longer be her sounding board because you have a new baby and you both are needed to care for your baby, and that's is your first and foremost responsibility. Tell her to find a good therapist and take her issues to therapy. Tell her she needs help from someone who is trained to help her work through her pain and loneliness. Explain that neither you or your wife can help her heal whereas a good therapist is worth their weight in gold. Tell her you and your wife would like to be friends with her but right now neither of you.can spare any time to spend with her because your baby comes first. Tell her that your boundaries are:
if she shows up uninvited sbd unannounced you will call the cops and press charges for trespassing. Further explain you do not want to have to do that but you can no longer tolerate her behavior.
Tell her that if it occurs a second time you not only will call the cops and press charges for trespassing, but additionally you will file for a restraining order that will include no contact not only in person but will include mail, email, text, phone, etc. Further state to her that she is an adult and she needs help to learn to control her impulses.
Then stand up and leave her to think about her actions.
Then pay a visit to mom. Sit her down and tell her to keep her mouth shut until you are through speaking. Explain that you and wife are trying your best to be the best parents to your new baby and as such can no longer play therapist to Daisy in the middle of the night when she just shows up and starts banging on your door and shouting at the top of her lungs. It is not fair to you and your wife, who are already sleep deprived from new baby duty, and it is not fair to your neighbors to have to put up with her ruckus at 3 a.m. Go on and explain to your mother you sat Daisy down and told her to find a professional therapist because you and your wife will no longer be her unpaid. untrained therapists. Tell her you told Daisy not to come over uninvited or unannounced anymore and the 1st time she does you are calling the cops and pressing trespassing charges. If it happens a second time you will also be calling the cops and pressing trespassing charges, and then filing for a restraining order which includes in person contact, phone, text, mail, email, etc. Tell mom you explained to Daisy that now the baby is here that is your first and foremost responsibility.. also explain to yout mom you told Daisy she is an adult and she needs to address her issues as an adult. Then tell mom the ball is in her court. It is basically her choice: she insists on Dsisy being included in your family gatherings then you and your family will refrain from attending. Tell her uou hate to have to issue that ultimatum but your and your wife's mental and physical health, and the welfare of yourself child are more important to you than Dsisy's hurt feelings. Tell her to let you know her decision. Stand up and hug her and ieave.
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