still weighing his own success on the shoulders of his child, and

He didn’t even provide boots with soles.

I don’t know. I’m feeling like one out of two listed above is actually doing great and is an absolute success, especially after surviving a dad like that.

Oops, did I give it away?

NTJ, and your cousin should see this thread to know how great they’re doing, and how many people are rooting for her.” Tralfamadorians_go

Another User Comments:
“NTJ.

You were honest. NO ONE her age would be doing well without family support. Cutting your child off at 18 for no good reason is ridiculous and cruel. It’s one thing if you simply don’t have the funds and have other kids to take care of, but if he had the funds and simply refused to give it to her out of spite, what the heck did he expect?

Does he not understand that his friends’ kids all got help and she did not? Does he really think that what he did was normal?

I hope the rest of your family is in touch with her and is at least emotionally supportive.

Your cousin is terrible. Tell him so, tell him so often, and then tell him again.” bettytomatoes

Another User Comments:
“NTJ – this is exactly why I choose to help my niece with a used car when no one else in the family would do anything.

No way am I going to let her waste her opportunity because she can’t get transportation to her school, her part-time job, the extracurricular stuff she does at school to support her major, even the fun events so she can enjoy her time there as well.

She’s an adult, so while I’ve taught her what I could about being safe and smart, I told her that I trust her judgment and that if she made mistakes, I hope that she can learn from them and that if she needs any kind of help, I’ll support/help her to the best of my abilities too.

While I’m not rich or have extra savings set aside by any means, this will help her, and frankly, even if she tried and failed, it doesn’t matter. What does is that she was given an opportunity and she took it, and so far, she’s doing great.” Kumashirosan

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