People Share Their Destructive Encounters With A Liar
41. Found Out My Girl Was Cheating On Me With Different People
“We started going out a year before entering college, and we were both each other’s firsts. We ended up going to different universities, but we were Skyping almost every day and everything was great. We were able to see each other for a couple of spaced-out weeks out of the year, and the time we spent together was really some of the happiest moments of my life, and I could tell she really enjoyed being with me too.
I’d like to believe that we both thought we’d found the person we’d spend the rest of our lives with.
However, during this time, I always had a nagging feeling about one of her friends at school, let’s call him friend A. They met early during her freshman year; he was several years older and was coaching the club frisbee team she played on. They grew very close, very fast, and when she talked about him she was so proud she’d found someone who was so similar to her, a friend whom she clicked with so easily.
I was so happy for her, but at the same time, I had some reservations.
They would always hang out at his apartment, usually just the two of them, sometimes with his roommate. They’d watch movies, play video games and board games, and talk for hours on end. She told me that he was always there when she had problems. As time went on they were spending more and more time together, and she was always upfront with me about when she would go hang out with him.
Over the years I’ve voiced my concerns to her about their friendship multiple times and questioned whether he was romantically interested in her, but she always reassured me that he wasn’t, and they were just very good friends. She even told me that he very much supports our relationship, and was sad that it seemed like I hated him.
During her junior year, she started co-oping with a company near her University, located outside the city, about 1-2 hrs driving time depending on traffic.
She lived close to work, but would still commute to the city in the evenings a couple of days during the week to attend frisbee practices (which he was no longer coaching), and during the weekends to see friends at school. She always told me she was tired after practice and didn’t want to drive an hour back home at night, so it was around this time that she started spending more nights at his apartment.
Before this, she had rarely spent nights there, mostly when she had an early flight the next morning so he could take her to the airport. I was unhappy about her sleeping over with him, so I asked if she could stay with teammates and other friends. She said that she was most comfortable asking him since they were so close, but promised she’d try to find other accommodations going forward.
At first, it would work, she’d stay with other friends, but eventually, as time went on it became commonplace for her to spend multiple nights a week at his place. At this point, it was so normal that I didn’t even really question it anymore. I want to reiterate that she never tried to hide the time she spent with him.
This past summer she was studying abroad in Ireland, and I was working in Chicago.
We had a 6 hr time difference; it was hard for me to talk during the workday, and when I got back she was usually getting ready to sleep or was out exploring the city. We could both tell that we were slowly drifting apart, but we both hoped that once she came back to the US we could talk again like we used to.
While she was in Ireland, she joined a frisbee team with the university she was studying at.
She quickly became friends with one of the guys on the team, let’s call him friend B, and similar to her other friend, they grew very close, very fast. She spent several nights a week going out to the city with him and others on the team. Again, I had a weird feeling about their friendship, but I dismissed it because I felt I should be happy for her, that she’d found a local friend to show her around and take her to do fun things.
She would often tell me stories about what they did together, such as drinking by the docks, or playing cards with the team, reinforcing my previous idea.
When she came back to the US a month ago, I was happy that we were back in the same time zone, but our conversations never picked up much, and we acknowledged this in one of our calls. We both expressed some regrets, vaguely having to do with our long-distance relationship vs.
having fun experiences at school. I had planned to visit her for a week before I went back to my fall internship in Chicago. I hoped to get some closure on these feelings we were both having.
She was working again at the same company, living an hour outside the city. During the day, she would go to work while I stayed behind at the apartment cleaning and killing time.
Although we were apart most of the time, it really felt like the time we spent together made up for it all.
A couple of days in, we had a talk. I brought up the feeling that even though we were both happy at the moment, staying together might not be the best long-term decision for us. This was incredibly scary and very emotional since for the past 4 years we had talked about getting married (casually, of course), and it was hard to imagine life without the other person.
We had grown so comfortable with each other over the years.
She asked me what love was. I answered that loving someone meant always wanting the best for them. I told her that to me, it seemed like she didn’t need our relationship anymore. She used to rely on me for emotional support and companionship, but it looked like she was able to make close friends wherever she went, and that it would be best for her to focus on herself, enjoy her time with friends, and not have to worry about me.
We didn’t come to a decision that night, but we agreed that before I went back to Chicago, we would resolve everything. I really loved her, I truly believed this was what was best for her, and even though we hadn’t made a final decision yet, I was ready to let her go.
After that night, we went back to being normal again, as was customary whenever we had talked about our problems.
I always thought that one of the strongest parts of our relationship was how well we communicated, despite our physical separation. Everything was great, until the morning she left her phone in the apartment while she was at work.
The thing about emotional cheating is that it’s difficult to pinpoint, and there isn’t really any hard evidence. I had some ideas that she may have been emotionally cheating on me given how close she was to the two friends I described in this story, so I decided to take a peek.
We were both very comfortable with each other seeing our phone passwords, so this wasn’t a problem.
What I saw was my biggest nightmare. All the things we used to talk about, things as simple as how our day was, what we were shopping online for, things that kept our long-distance relationship solid… were things she was sharing with friends A and B. My hunch that she didn’t need me anymore was spot on.
I decided to dig a little deeper, searching messages for some keywords, which is when I found out. The messages I saw that morning still haunt me.
She came home for lunch and I confronted her about everything. She confessed that she had been having an affair with friend A for a year, but that they had stopped recently. She also revealed to me that she cheated on me with friend B while she was in Ireland.
She told me that she and friend A had stopped because she really wanted to fix our relationship, and fix herself. She told me that every time she went over to friend A’s place she didn’t intend for anything to happen, but for a year, the morning after she would walk out feeling guilty, confused, and wondering why she was doing what she was doing. Her face had the look of someone whose carefully constructed house of cards burned down before it had a chance to fall.
She said she hoped that I would never find out and that she would fix everything, and we could be together.
This entire experience was so surreal to me. Everything was numb; I didn’t cry, I don’t remember feeling angry, just empty. She said she knew she didn’t deserve me, and I agreed. She went back to work, and I told my closest friends, who urged me to fly back home to them and my family as soon as possible.
That afternoon, she took me to the airport. We rode in silence for most of the car ride. Before we parted, I said something that has stayed with me, and I have repeated the latter part to myself almost daily since then:
“I hope you can find peace in what you’ve done, because I am a strong person, and I will find mine.”
She said she was glad.
People are such complicated creatures. When I first met her, and during the time we were together, I and all of our mutual friends had the impression that she was a strong, independent woman who knew what she wanted in life. All I saw on that day was a poor, dependent suck who got too easily attached to any male who shows her enough physical and emotional attention, and I felt sorry for her.
I can confidently say that while I hate what she’s done to me, I don’t hate her as a person, and I still wish the best for her future. I do not plan to be a part of that future, but I believe that is what it means to love someone.
The last few weeks I have really been focusing on myself. Taking up new hobbies, taking better care of myself (dressing better, sleeping more), and learning new things at my internship. My greatest solace is that I have done absolutely nothing wrong; during our 4 years together I gave all the love I could to her, and I believe I am better for it. I’m excited for what life has in store for me!”
40. Caught My Partners Dirty Texts With Another Man
“Had been with my girl for almost fourteen years. We prided ourselves on what I always thought was complete honesty with one another.
During the last year of our relationship, my suspicions were raised by some shady behavior with her phone (turning the screen away when I was near) and work computer (we worked at the same place, and she did some odd alt-tabbing when I walked into her office from time to time), and I eventually caught her on a ‘mingling’ site seeking another woman to play with.
I wasn’t TOO upset, since I had seen other girls over the last decade (with her knowledge and permission) and we had also had a couple of threesomes. She apologized profusely for going behind my back and said she just wanted to play, which I kind of understood. I just couldn’t shake the feeling, though, that there was more to the story, and that it was worse than I thought.
Dealbreaker came one day when a fellow photographer friend of mine wanted me to download a photo-sharing app that was too new for my old phone. My girl came home from work and I asked her if I could download it to her phone instead of mine. She said ‘no problem, here’ and handed me her phone while she went to change into after-work clothes. Had the phone in my hand for all of ten seconds when a message popped onto her screen: ‘This is for you’ and a pic of some dude’s wang.
I immediately texted back, ‘Pic didn’t come through. Did you get the last ones I sent?’ The dude immediately sends another d*ck pic and the message, ‘Which ones? Haven’t seen one from you since last week.’
When she came out of the bedroom, I held up the shot of this dude’s junk and didn’t say a word. She stuttered and stammered and generally looked guilty as f*ck, all while she claimed the dude was just a friend, and gay, and that he must have sent it by mistake, blah, blah, blah, bullsh*t, bullsh*t, bullsh*t.
Over the next three days, it all came out – two YEARS of s*xting and cheating with MULTIPLE dudes (she denied the physical cheating part, but there was plenty of evidence in her text and email history to blow holes in that story).
On the fourth day, while she raved and cried and apologized and begged me not to go, I packed everything I could fit in my car, pointed it south, and split to Southern California, where I now live a mile from the beach with a GREAT girl and our three cats.
I’ve never been happier.”
39. Husband Went Home Smelling Like A Bad Vagina
“My husband never wanted to go out or do things by himself. It was always ‘us’ and I was fine either way. Last year, around fall, he started wanting to go out by himself. I thought it was weird but he did and I was fine with it. Then, he started turning it on me and accusing me of being jealous because he was going out when, in fact, I hadn’t shown any aggression over it.
I had played this game before, I knew that were clear signs of cheating.
One night we had plans and he chose to go out anyway. He texts me to make it seem like I was angry about him going out and got passive-aggressive which was his signature move. I wasn’t angry until that point then it all just blew up. He was gone for HOURS but I stayed up.
When he came in he smelled like stale beer and his mouth smelled like another woman.
He told me he was leaving and moved to our basement for about a month. I continued to suspect he was cheating during that time.
I found out I was pregnant (of course right?), tried to hide it from him, and failed. I never took him off my hippa paperwork at the doctor and apparently getting a bill from the dr was enough for him to check up on that.
He told me he was still leaving but would help any way he could – we already have a blended family – each of us, 2 kids, from a past marriage.
I ended up having a miscarriage at 11 weeks (I have PCOS and this was the first time I could get pregnant in 7 years) it somehow weirdly brought us together and he moved back in.
Lots of apologies, tons of tears, 10 months of therapy and we are in a very very good, stable place, none of the kids knew.
About 3 weeks after we got back together we sent the kids to grandparents and stuff, went to our first therapy session, and got really really real with each other – like, no awkwardness or anything.
He admitted what I knew all along, he had been cheating for about 6 months.
He hadn’t ended things with the girl and had just ghosted but we both agreed he needed to put it to rest. He told me her whole story about she had been cheated on and all this stuff, which actually made me feel kind of bad for her, but also she was a homewrecker so. I rode with him to her house where he wrote a very nice letter and delivered it.
He changed jobs to be away from her.
In May (about 5 months after getting back together), I saw her while grocery shopping. She definitely looked like a horrible person.Also, STD tests are so important, husband and I both had Trich so my assumptions about this girl were sooo right.
Did it suck? Yeah. Did I do the right thing working it out with my husband? Yes. Will it work forever? Who knows.
But I 100000% recommend therapy to ANY married couple struggling. Marriage is so much more than going out with someone, you should def put more into it and therapy can be such a huge eye-opener. A lot of people (including my husband AND myself) don’t know how to be in a happy healthy relationship and therapy helps with that.”
38. Went Back To A Constant Cheater Numerous Times
“Told me she had a man back home who she was going to end things with the next time she went home to visit. I should have seen that for the obvious warning sign it was but, for a bunch of reasons I didn’t. Anyway, she wouldn’t answer my texts when she got back from the visit. Eventually found out she had slept with the guy and hadn’t broken it off.
I ended things but she ended up knocking on my door one night and I accepted her apology after she said she went through with the breakup.
Cut to a few months later and she ghosts me for a whole weekend. I saw her and her ‘ex’ holding hands walking past a place I was eating on campus. The same exact thing happened as before and I, being madly in love, took her back again.
A few months later, after not trusting her the whole time and feeling constant anxiety about it, I found out she was sleeping with her neighbor regularly. At this point, the whole thing was turning me into a stalker and just a person I didn’t want to be. I realized this when I called her a c*nt and immediately regretted it.
Saying that in anger was one of the most embarrassing things I ever did. We haven’t spoken since and she’s been with her neighbor ever since.
I’m not angry about it. We were really young. It’s best to move on and grow up from being a person who would behave the way I did.”
37. Lashed Out At The Man Who Cheated On My Friend
“My best friend was living with her ex a few years ago. He proposes to her during a really bad period in their relationship, and she gets suspicious. He had just started a new job and things were not ok between them, they were both to blame but he was getting colder and colder, treating her like Ssh*t and borderline emotionally abusive. So she checks his phone one night and finds out he’s been having an affair with a female co-worker.
She breaks up with him and is devastated, it took us a long LONG time to take her back up from depression. Fast forward three months after the breakup they (the ex and his side chick) get married, because surprise surprise she’s pregnant.
Fast forward again, three years later, he, being the piece of sh*t he always was, tries to contact ME through Facebook. I stalk him a little, and I’m not gonna lie, I get a little satisfied to see that his stuff ain’t going that well, and eventually found out through a mutual friend that he is still with his wife but miserable and unhappy.
He sends me a request to direct message me to which I reply: ‘get the F*ck away from her. I’m sad your child has to grow up having a sh*t sad person like you as a parent. The second you get close to her (my friend) I’ll destroy you’. He instantly deleted his friend request and blocked me. My friend, who was now in a great place and happy got a big laugh out of my response. I’ll fight a f*ckboy to the death to protect my friends.”
36. Caught My Husband Sleeping With His Lesbian Secretary
“I had driven to my hometown for the weekend as my grandmother was in the hospital. On the way home I called him a bunch of times to have him set up so we could watch the game (it was Super Bowl Sunday) and let him know what time we would be home. As I’m walking towards the apartment my neighbor said something but I missed it, I open the door and all I hear is ‘oh sh*t’ and his pants zipping.
I completely missed the weekend bag his lesbian secretary (this will be important later) had left by the front door.
At this point, I start looking around and realize that every surface is covered in condoms, soda, our sons’ pack and play under the TV. We had words, I might have tried to kill him but realized I couldn’t effectively kill him while holding our 16-month-old. He tried to stop me but I eventually managed to get out the door and to the neighbors intending to drop my son off so I could finish the job.
They wouldn’t let me leave till the blood lust had dissipated.
He leaves to take her home all the while I’m shouting profanities and death threats from my neighbor’s balcony. They also had to stop me from jumping from the second floor to have another go at him. What followed was several months of me getting my sh*t together so I could leave and him constantly trying to kick me (and our son) out of our apartment while spending all his time at her apartment, draining our bank account to buy her things (including jewelry from Tiffany’s) and spending the grocery money and then some on a PS4 for his mistress.
My son and I ate broccoli and rice that month. That’s all we had in the house.
Exactly 4 months to the day I caught him I picked up and left. While he was supposed to be on a business trip, he got fired a few days before (I’m part of his relationship with the secretary). About a week later the secretary breaks up with him to get back together with her ex she had left for him.
At which point my husband decides his life is over because she left him and doesn’t love him so he was calling me to tell me he was going to kill himself. I probably talked him down 5 or 6 times over this chick, one of my biggest regrets to this day.
At this point in the story, you should remember that this man has a wife and 2 kids but the secretary was his only reason for living.
He fought me tooth and nail on the divorce, and it took 2 years when I literally asked for nothing. This year he forgot both of his son’s birthdays. And missed my son’s first day of real school. I’ve said all that to say this, Heather if you are reading this, you ruined my life and my son’s relationship with his father. You turned a man who was active in his kids’ life (he never missed a weekly storytime at the library) into a man who only remembers to call once a year. He has forever ruined his relationship with his eldest, and my son literally responds with either ‘I don’t have a dad I have a first name’ or referred to his grandfather as his dad when asked about his dad. Also, b*tch you are lucky I didn’t have you subpoenaed in the divorce case. And drag your name through the mud around town.”
35. My Partner Cuddled With My Friend In Front Of Me
“My first real Relationship lasted about 5 years.
For some reason or another, we always hit a rocky stage in the fall. Every year. Like Clockwork. But we always worked it out. I had started to believe it had more to do with seasonal depression wearing us down more than anything else.
One year she started getting really depressed that she didn’t have any friends of her own.
She had alienated herself from several of her oldest friends for reasons I didn’t agree with. However, instead of encouraging her to repair some of those friendships, I encouraged her to spend time with some of my own friends.
I remember there were two things she was doing that were driving me f*cking nuts. The first was planning surprise dinners with her family for me. I’d get home from work and she’d be like ‘we’re supposed to go have dinner with my parents tonight!’ I liked her parents, I really did.
They were fantastic people that treated me well. But I don’t respond well to surprise plans. If I’m having a long difficult day at work and looking forward to going home and relaxing, I feel a bit cheated when that is suddenly stripped away to go socialize. So I’d refuse to go to surprise visits and she’d go alone. Please, just talk to me before committing to these things.
Make me part of the planning process so I have time to mentally prepare for it.
She’d also taken my encouragement and started hanging out with my friends… One friend more than the rest. Gaming online with him all night instead of hanging out with me. Hanging out at his place until 2 am. I knew what was actually going on but was struggling to let myself believe.
We were at a D&D session with a bunch of friends when she got into a tickle fight with him which ended with the two of them cuddled up and snuggling on the couch… in front of me and all my friends.
I knew it was over, but I was still in so much shock I didn’t know what to say. One of my friends called them out on it before I did asking what the F*CK did he just watch.
I think he knew I was shattering in my chair. I remember I went home without her saying a word.
I… don’t remember much after that. I think I cried for two days straight. I actually went to a doctor because I just couldn’t stop crying. I have no family, all of my friends were her friends, I had nobody I could talk to so I just cried.
I remember I just sat in the waiting room for hours and cried because I wanted to die so badly and I knew if I went home I would kill myself. Eventually, the doc gave me some anti-depressants and those are what got me through the months to come.
I know it feels like a pretty intense overreaction. and the me I am today would agree. But the me I was at the time had very little self-esteem had attempted suicide in the past and had nobody left I could talk to. I was completely devastated. It took me a very long time to rebuild myself.”
34. Partner Sneaks Out Of The House To See Her Ex
“Was traveling to Hawaii with my ex and her mother (I live on the East Coast) for two weeks. One day, about 5 days into the trip, she gets in the shower. I’m laying in bed checking my email on her laptop when I see a selfie that she’d taken with her webcam. I open it up to find a picture of her, from the chest up, without a shirt on.
Knowing full well I was not the recipient of the said picture I investigate further. Long story short, I go into her Skype and see that one of her most recent conversations was with an ex with who I had always had a hunch something was going on.
I go on to read that not only had she been sending him nudes, meeting up late night after I’d gone to bed (we were living separately) but also that he was ‘the love of her life’ and that ‘OP knows I’ll never love him as much as you’, and ‘we’ll be back together soon.’
We had been together 4 years at that point and the conversation was dated 5 days before we left for Hawaii.
Not knowing at all how to handle all of this at that moment I copy/pasted the entire conversation and emailed it to myself. Once we got home I sent it to her and we broke up.”
33. Wife Cheated On Me With A Man Who's 15 Years Older Than Her
“I found out my ex-wife (now) had been talking to a guy at the gym. She made it out to be ‘just friends’ but I knew better.
So one day while working I was texting her and she was really slow to respond and her responses were just off like she was barely reading my texts as just replying. It was around lunchtime so I had a little break from work.
I used the find my phone app and saw that she was in a weird place, nowhere that she should have been. I go to my car and drive a few blocks away and walk the rest of the way. Her car was there next to another car and inside the other car was her making out with this old guy. He was like 15 years older than her.
They see me and she gets out with her head down like a scolded dog. The dude never gets out (wise on his part at least.) She’s apologizing like crazy and everything. I just leave. We try to work past it, with her telling me they never had s*x and we have 3 kids and all that. But then she tells me I should turn off the find my phone app so I don’t ‘drive myself crazy’ checking it all the time.
I’m like ‘mmm hmmm, OK’ but I know what’s up.
So I hide my iPad in her car with the data turned on. A few days later I notice she’s way away from work in the middle of the day. So I go to where her car is and she’s nowhere around it. I text and ask where she is and she says she’s just out for a drive to clear her head.
I said ‘really? Because I’m standing next to your car and it’s not moving.’ She says ‘well, I didn’t say I was the one driving,’ like that’s a real excuse. Bam, she’s with an old dude.
So I drive straight home and find her iPad and open Facebook messenger and find multiple messages of her and this dude talking about hooking up, almost getting caught..where to f*ck..
etc. I take screenshots of everything and save them to my work servers where they will be forever, as well as a few thumb drives. Then I sent her pictures of the screenshots proving she was cheating. Then I waited.
I get text after text saying we need to talk. I tell her I’m going to post all those on Facebook and a few minutes later she screeches into our driveway.
I tell her I want a divorce, she had better play ball and make it fair or I will out her to everyone in the known universe. She agrees and we are done.
Mind you I saved her from her previous divorce when she couldn’t pay her house payment and I kept her afloat. I also cared for her family and bought them food when they had lean times and spoiled them at Christmas. And this b*tch was dropping our kids off at daycare so she could go f*ck an old dude. Karma is a b*tch. Now I’m getting married to a woman who treats me like a prince and we have an awesome house together and my kids love her. I enjoy life more than ever without that pain in the a*s.”
32. Caught My Ex Sleeping With Another Man On Our Anniversary
“I was going out with my second significant other in high school. semi-long distance (she was in a troubled youth home during the week) but I saw her every weekend and had gone the 2 hours to visit more than enough times. It had been about a year and we were out and about when this absolutely massive man came up and said hi to her.
Now, she was 15 and I was 17, and this guy must have been in the late 20s. She said he was an old friend and that was that. Well…
About 3 weeks later I got out of work early, headed over to give her a teddy bear and some flowers for our anniversary. Got to her house and didn’t even knock, just walked right in and shouted hello.
She then greets me at the top of the stairs in a very large T-shirt that wasn’t mine or hers. She says ‘oh um…aren’t you suppose to be working???’ And then I hear ‘Hey babe, who is it?? tThe bed is getting cold without your a*s in it’ and I walked out before she could really do much else. Threw the flowers down, burned pretty much everything that reminded me of her.
Ignored her calls, blocked on social media.
The worst part of the whole ordeal was that she couldn’t just let me go. Swhe ended up lying about the whole thing to my best friend at the time, going out with him, and trying to use him to get back at me, going so far as to make him bring her to my college to then try her very best to seduce me, WHILE HE WAS PARKED IN THE LOT.
She’s scum and now has like 4 kids with some dude twice her age so meh.
31. Girl Told Everyone I'm Abusive And A Stalker
“This is all with the ONE GIRL.
1st: found a d*ck pic on her phone, other pictures together, text messages, stuff like that.
Deny, deny, deny, I forgive her.
2nd: she’s fighting with a girl outside my house ON VALENTINES DAY, girls claiming she has been with my neighbor, ask to check phone, won’t show.
Deny, deny, deny, I forgive her.
3rd: random girl starts inboxing me on FB, getting very suggestive that she wants s*x, I just reply ‘I don’t think my girl would appreciate us catching up sorry’ Random FB girl: ‘I don’t appreciate her f*cking my man’
Deny, deny, deny, I forgive her.
4th and final:
By this point our relationship is continuously on the rocks, our arguments are hate-filled with extreme screaming matches.
I had finally gotten a job I love, an opportunity to make big money. I start staying home a lot more and left my party days, she still wanted to party, I’d let her.
Driving around one night to clear my head, see her car at a friend’s house, calling them both but heard nothing.
Asking other friends for his number in case I didn’t have the right one, get some weird reply like ‘is he being dodgy is he?’
I’m at a big party with this big friend group, sitting outside smoking with 2 friends, mention the car thing, one of them turns around and says ‘I don’t know too much, but that’s been the talk of all the guys lately.’
Confront a few people, turns out she’s been snap chatting my friend, no one told me.
See this guy at the party
‘We need to talk.’
Confessed that she was speaking to him but looked me in the eyes, said he would never do that to me, and shook my hand.
I and her are on the rocks spending less time together. I’m doing nightly drives just hoping to see them together. She tells everyone I’m stalking her and that I’m abusive.
Drive past his house one day, another friend lives 2 houses down, so I use friend 2’s mobile to call her, she answers and I tell her I’ve exposed her.
SHE STILL DENYS, I pull up, they’re peeking through the curtains, waiting for him to come out, never does. Walk up to the front door she walks out, a few minutes later so does he, we fight, gets split up by the neighbors.
She continuously lets herself into my house before she goes to work to hang out and have s*x. She falls asleep one day seeing me, clearly forgot to change her screensaver photo is the two of them.
I’m taking photos of her cuddling me in bed with her phone next to me to get dates and to show the a*shole.
After this, we basically stop seeing each other. He still calls and texts me sometimes to say something dumb, little does he know, she still does too, and she also knows I have all this evidence to show she’s lying, been cheating on him with me, even some to prove he was eating a little surprise I left in her.
(I wanted his tongue to suffer after giving me his word)
I’m seeing someone else now, she’s still with my old friend.
The part that shatters me, my big group of friends are all hanging with her now, I’m forgotten, apparently, she’s told everyone we weren’t together whilst I was working on being healthy and my new job. Anywhere I go now, people think I’m a stalker and I’m abusive, I’ve got all the footage and proof to show that I’m not.
Not one of my friends ever told me, and they all knew. They’re all happy, she’s happy going out with a dude just for pills and w*ed.
I’ve got a hard drive full of this info to humiliate them both, but I really can’t bring myself to post it or anything. She’s happy now, why ruin it for her? I can’t go out because of my newfound reputation, receive threats all the time.
I don’t know what to do anymore, she was my first love, and although I know I’d never be with her again because of her actions, I still want her to be happy.
Everyone hates me but loves her. I guess that’s the way it needs to be.
I know I’m an idiot, I should have known the first time, I shouldn’t have slept with her as revenge on the old friend either, but if anyone has some advice I’d love to hear it.
I’m not afraid of them and I know I never did any of the accusations, I just want to go out, meet new people and be happy again! Without someone coming up to me, mentioning it and acting tough until I explain it and show them..”
30. Cheating Partner Broke Up With Me On Proposal Night
“I had been with her for 8 years, we met in college and she was my best friend. Was loyal, supportive, and always there for her. Well, I had just moved out of an apartment with friends which created a falling out for a while with them, bought a house, and got an engagement ring with the intent to propose either that Halloween or that August at the festival we worked at together every year.
I then caught her cheating on me with another guy, and she left me for him. I had to return the unused engagement ring and live in the house I bought for us (she was aware of the house and helped with picking one out, was not meant as a surprise) alone.
She married the other guy two months later, who had just come out of a divorce with two kids.
She then blocked and deleted any evidence of us ever having known each other, so the only proof I have now of us is the now broken Claddagh ring that she gave me when we first started going out. I was just told they just had a child last week, so she’s been super happy while I’ve been trying to repair myself the past 4 years.
It gets worse though. Over the past year, I found out she cheated on me MULTIPLE times that I never knew about. She’d sleep with a random classmate regularly one semester in a rehearsal room after they finish class, saw another guy for a year and a half while we were together that I never knew about, f*cked a random dude at a party that I didn’t go to, would constantly make out, and send nudes. I’ve seen old conversations now.
So yeah, I have some serious trust issues and really haven’t gone out with a woman in about 4 years.”
29. Man Proposed To His Ex With The Ring That Was Meant For Me
“I was seeing a guy who was in the army. He lived a few states away but at this time was stationed at a base elsewhere. He went home for a long weekend break and flew me there to spend it with him and his family. Beforehand he was in contact with my parents, had asked their permission to propose to me, showed them the ring he had bought for me, the whole nine yards.
I knew nothing about it until right before I went there, they had accidentally let it slip to me.
So I get there, we have a great few days together, and I keep anticipating this great moment to come where he asks me, but nothing. Then on the last night, he tells me his buddies want him to go out to the bar to meet them for a couple of drinks before he leaves again.
Mind you, I’m only 20 at this point so I can’t even get into the bar, but I tell him to go have fun and I’ll just wait in the hotel by myself for him. He tells me he’ll only be gone a couple of hours tops.
2 hours pass, then 3, then 6. I finally wake up around 4 am to him crawling into bed with me.
He’s all grabby so we have s*x before falling back to sleep. The next day we’re supposed to spend a few hours together before he takes me back to the airport. I wake up first and notice his phone keeps lighting up. I look at it to see some girl’s name keep popping up but can only see a few words of the texts shown as previews.
I try to open his phone to see what’s so urgent but there’s suddenly a lock on it. I don’t think TOO much of it. He gets up and a little later tells me he actually has to head back to base early and has me spend the morning with his mom, who took me to get pedicures then drove me to the airport. I fly home, feeling slightly puzzled that this great proposal he been planning never happens.
My family picks me up at the airport and we barely leave the parking lot and I have a message from his sister, telling me how the whole family knew and were supposed to keep quiet but she loved me and it didn’t feel right, but the night before at the bar he met up with his ex, ended up going to a park nearby to talk, had s*x in the park, and he then proposed to her with my ring.
Before coming back to the hotel, having s*x with me and pretending everything was just fine.
Oh, and the topping on it was when I found out she was a stripper. They lasted a few weeks before he came back begging me for a second chance. He still messages me from time to time when he’s back in the area to try to get me to meet up with him.”
28. Girl Cheated On Me With A Mutual Friend
“We had been going out for about 8 months, but we had been having issues. She (we’ll call her C) had moved into a flat with one of her friends and a mutual friend of ours (we’ll call him S), who I had suggested, and had asked (because of the problems) if we could ease off for a while, and just go out, not just go to hers and hang out.
I agreed because I wanted to fix things etc. It did suck as the flat became the social (drinking) hub for our group of friends, but of course, I wasn’t allowed to come (warning sign #1).
Eventually the inevitable happened and we split up. The friend’s group still went there at the weekends, but I didn’t really want to seem like the bitter ex so I said nothing despite feeling like sh*t.
A few months later I’m chatting to a friend of mine about how nice a guy S was, and that he and his girl had been seeing for ages and that they were a good couple, etc and the friend stopped me and said ‘I can’t let you go on like this’ and filled me in.
Basically one night (I don’t know if it was during or after our relationship) C and S had disappeared, and the friend group had walked in on them going at it.
They swore everyone to secrecy at least until they had a chance to tell me themselves.
They never told me.
When I found out I instantly messaged his girl (he called me a d*ck for doing that) and confronted C. She denied it ever happened, and called me an a*shole for the accusation.
A year after all this I bumped into her friends and they told me that she had been cheating on me for months with multiple people, and that ‘every time she did it, she bragged to us’.
She had been the love of my life at that point. 10 years on I’m over it, but every so often I feel the twinge.
Bonus: I’m still acquaintances with S, who is still, bafflingly, with his girl. He started to hate me for a while because he thought I wanted to bang his girl in revenge. I had no such interest.”
27. Rich Guy Got Cheated On And Jailed
“I went to an outpatient program like two years ago for depression and other stuff. There were lots of 50+-year-olds and I heard a lot of their stories. This was the dude who was like the VP of Amazon for a very long time. He made a lot of money from it and came home to his mansion in Georgia to his wife with some other guy.
He said it was a complete surprise, that his wife thought he was in another state. He literally opened his bedroom door and they were f*cking. He never touched the guy but he started crying and yelling at him saying he was gonna kick his a*s. His wife started screaming at him saying she’ll call the cops for a terroristic threat and for him to get the f*ck out.
Well he’s on his knees crying and she calls the cops and he gets taken to jail no joke. He is able to leave shortly after (I don’t remember details here) but as he is driving home from this jail thing he gets pulled over again and the cops ask if he’s had any drugs. After he left the jail he took his SSRIs and apparently he had just over the legal dose to drive even though he was following prescription. The cops didn’t believe him and he got a DUI that still holds today. Apparently, his wife just absolutely f*cked him over and he was not doing well. I hope that man is alive and awesome today. He doesn’t deserve any more tears”
26. Wife Was Making An Anniversary Collage Of Her And Her Side Guy
“My ex-wife and I had been married for 5+ years and had been planning for over a year to start trying to have children. I thought we were super happy until I accidentally found out she was cheating on me.
We had matching laptops that we set up next to each other on our bedroom desk. In fact, we would often sit together while using them. My laptop battery was dying on me one evening while I was typing a few emails for work.
I yelled out to my then-wife in the next room that I was going to log into my email on her laptop really quickly to send one last quick email. I heard her yell back ‘Ok.’
As I was opening her laptop, I heard her running footsteps on our tile hallway floor. Just as she burst into the room, I saw what she failed to stop me from seeing: she had been working on a photo collage for the 1 year anniversary with her side guy that was clearly displayed right on her computer desktop as I opened it up.
It had a mushy message in the middle and a bunch of photos of the two of them kissing and hugging all over the place. Some of the photos were taken in our bedroom and around our house and some others were taken in places that we had often visited together during our 5 year+ marriage.
As you can imagine, I was completely devastated as it was all a surprise to me.
My ex saw the look on my face and knew she was in trouble. She broke down crying and begged me to save her from herself. I was very upset but was able to stay relatively calm. We talked for a couple of hours about things and she actually confessed pretty much everything to me that she just wanted to party and do drugs and didn’t want to be ‘on lockdown’ as a wife or mother.
Looking back I should’ve seen more signs and now realize I was in denial about the state of our marriage We divorced as amicably as we could and I kept our dog. I’m now remarried to a wonderful (and honest) woman and my ex is still with the side guy somewhere and we don’t keep in contact. It was a nightmare at the time and definitely sucked to find out the way I did, but the whole situation turned out ok for me in the long run.”
25. Ex Called The Cops On Me While I Was Out With A New Girl
“At a college party at my fraternity house, I found her in one of the unused bedrooms with some random dude. She claimed she was drunk and thought it was me. My response was that since I lived there then why would we be in some random room and not my room. Me being in love and a dumba*s stayed with her.
She did it again a little more than a year later but same conditions (party at my fraternity house, random guy, extra room).
This time she claimed she was taken advantage of but didn’t want to do anything about it. We broke up and got back together a few times, moved in together, broke up again but stayed friends.
Then we both got jobs at the same company and both moved to our own places in the same city and still hung out a lot. I started seeing someone else and my now friend/ex had someone over who she met online.
She told me that he refused to leave her place until they had s*x and they did but she was taken advantage of and it was all my fault. At that point, I tried to break off all contact with her.
On one of the first hangouts with my now wife, the ex had blown up my phone and said she was going to call the police and tell them I was stalking her.
I got home from the date and the police were there. I talked to them, told them that I was out with a woman, showed them the threatening messages of her saying she was going to slash my tires, explained that we work at the same place and that I drive her roommate to work too. They went back to talk to her and I have not heard from her since. I met her around 2008 and stopped contact in 2011. Sometimes people I know ask if I know what she is up to and I don’t really care.”
24. Revealed To My Partner That I Knew Her Secret By Playing A CD
“I once worked QA at a call center, my girl worked there as well, in an administrative assistant type role. We lived together as well. One Saturday, we were both working, I was listening to agents’ calls from the previous weeks and she was doing paperwork. At our call center, all calls had to be wrapped up in under 7 minutes, so I would do a sort-by time and listen to any that went over.
This time when I did so, I noticed a call that was 49 minutes, and still in session, which was odd as no agents were working. I walked over to the department and saw my girl was using one of their desks to do the paperwork and using the phone at that desk. I left without her seeing me.
I got back to my desk and every bell, whistle, and flag was telling me to listen, so I dropped in and heard, in real-time, a female friend of hers says ‘If you’re cheating, you should tell him.’ My chest and stomach sank to the floor.
I couldn’t confront her because I wasn’t allowed to live listen, and especially to someone that wasn’t an agent, I could lose my job. She got off the phone shortly after (for 10 minutes before she did, I listened to the most callous, heartless sh*t, such as how the guy she was f*cking was married and that she didn’t care) and the day ended. However, before it did, I put the file on a private FTP.
We home together, ate together, the whole nine and I couldn’t say sh*t.
A few days later, she was flying home a few states away for a vacation. She was to be gone a week. The whole week, I was torn up with how to proceed. Then I knew. I burned the audio onto a CD and went to the airport. When I picked her up, I told her I had a song she might like and fired it up.
10 seconds in she starts screaming and crying, telling me to just drive, find a bar, she needs a drink. We went in and I hit the bathroom. I come out 5 minutes later, she’s got 10 empty shot glasses and the bartender yelling at her ‘You told me 5 people were right behind you!’ He noticed me, told me to get her drunk a*s outta here. We went home and a few days later I left.
The other guy ended up getting her pregnant and leaving her.”
23. Went Out With My Ex's Roommate After I Found Out About Her Dirty Little Secret
“Most obvious cheat was a girl I used to go out with, not spouse. About 12-13 years ago when I was in college I helped my girl move into an apartment on campus at her new college. She had two roommates, let’s call them C and K (both girls). C and K were both really cool. C was very smart and easy to get along with.
K was very pretty but shy. This apartment was about 60-70 miles from where I lived so getting there wasn’t fun. Spent most weekends there helping my girl with house chores, fixing her car, helping her study, and then we’d hang out and have s*x a few times before I went home. After time passed, I heard less and less from her during the week. Ok, she’s busy with school work, I get it.
Then I came up one day and C was like ‘sorry, we don’t know where she is.’ Oooook. So C and I hang out and she was like ‘I think you need a new girl. She’s being shady.’ She wouldn’t elaborate though. Lo and behold I get back to the apartment and drop off some stuff in my girl’s room and there is a guy’s watch on her end table.
Shortly before I left, my girl came home. I asked her ‘who is he?’.She was like ‘oh that’s mine.’ About that time I noticed a condom wrapper in her trashcan. Told her to f*ck off and took off.
Apparently, the guy she slept with just wanted some s*x because he disappeared pretty quickly after that. She called me for weeks asking me to take her back. Nope.
Run into C about a month later. She invited me to a party where I saw K. K and I hooked up and had a good 3-year run. After seeing K for about 2 months, my old girl found out I was seeing K and apparently had a mental breakdown (she was jealous of K apparently and K didn’t like her very much anyway). I just told my old girl, ‘guess you shouldn’t have cheated.’ It was a shame because my old girl and I had a good thing going. Looking back on it now though, I’m grateful it happened before I asked her to marry me. I probably would have asked her after a few years.”
22. Married The Girl Who Manipulated Me Into Taking Her Back
“I was basically living with my girl at the time and she had been transferred from a nice suburb convenience store to one that was pretty rough. A lot of drug users, drug dealers, and crazy people come through the store. One morning, I come over to her apartment and I notice this huge big black truck that I have never seen in the year that I have been there.
I thought it weird and proceeded to go up the stairs to her apartment. After unlocking the door, I noticed these heavy black work shoes in the doorway. Not mine or hers. I look up and there she was, in her underwear saying she is sorry this has happened. Up until this point, we were happy, so I thought. I was devastated. I didn’t know what to say.
I started to cry and asked, ‘why?’. I could see the remorse of hurting me on her face. I just walked out of there.
A couple of weeks later she contacts me telling me she misses me, like a dumba*s I tell her the same. She proceeded to tell me that the new job intimidated her and the guy she slept with would offer her protection and w*ed if she hung out with him.
Like a dumbass, I forgave her and put it in the past. Told her to quit her job and find a new one. She did. So I am critical of myself because I eventually married her, thinking it would work out. We eventually moved to another state where we eventually got her the help she needed for her mental health issues. After which she became a real asshole to me to where I just told her how I felt and left. I truly blame myself for my divorce. I got what I deserved.”
21. Caught My Wife And Workmate In The Heat Of The Moment In A Parking Lot
“Worked with my wife and close friend (got them their jobs there), one day a friend and I are leaving from a job and we make plans to hang out after work while we are driving back. As soon as we get back he starts acting kind of fidgety and says he has some plans that came up, so he cancels our hangout. I have a funny feeling about it but I shrug it off.
I text the wife to see what she is up to and maybe take her out since I don’t have any plans now. She tells me she is going to a hangout and asks me when I’m getting home, I say later since I can stay in the office and get more work done (my thought process was, might as well since the two people I hang out with the most are busy anyway).
I realize I left something at home I need for work, so I head home a bit early to find my wife all dolled up for a casual hangout. I shrug it off at the time because she said something that convinced me to essentially “look the other way” about it.
Couple of hours later I go out for a drive cause I’m bored…I happen to see her car parked in a nearby shopping center as I pass by, at least it looks a lot like her car so I go in the lot and look.
It’s definitely her car after seeing the items in the car and the license plate.
I ask her via text how the hangout is and where it happens to be. She says good and it’s I’m town. I look at finding my iPhone…she is one town over, 45+ minutes away. I track her as she goes to her second destination and waits around the corner to confirm it’s her and see who she is with.
I watch and wait for her GPS icon to move, it starts heading toward the exit of this facility, I’m watching intently to match up a car to her icon… I see friend’s car… I can’t believe it, I follow their car for a bit, and it’s going in the direction of where her car was parked. I take another road and floor it to beat them there.
His car rolls up and parks next to hers, I see them kissing and its clearly getting heated. I confront them and end things, I have her go home. We have a long hard talk about our marriage, I divorce her shortly after we talk for a few days.”
20. Cheating Husband Gave Me Several Illnesses
“Working as a professor at a prestigious university, but I f*cking *hated* it. I hated the city, I hated my colleagues, the students were f*cking awful. My husband got a job offer in the city we had previously lived in, and I jumped for joy at the prospect of being able to quit my job.
We are 3 days away from moving, using our savings to make the move, I have no idea what I’ll do, but that’s ok because my husband’s new job pays well.
My laptop breaks, and I borrow his. Go to check Reddit, and read auto-fills to an escort site. I do some digging, and I find his secret email account. It’s a Gmail account, and he’s been setting up dates for years. It’s linked to search history when he’s signed in, and he’s recently searched for ‘herpes’.
We were meant to spend those last 3 days with his sister, which we did.
I spent the entire time in our room crying and shaking.
Not proud of this, but I did NOT leave him. I really just wanted to get back to our city, but all of our friends there were his friends first, and I wanted to keep them. My parents were f*cking awful to me growing up (and still are), but his family was amazing, and I wanted to keep them as well. He was genuinely devastated, we went to counseling, I finally felt like I had equal footing in the relationship. Three years later, he gives me chlamydia, and I take our gorgeous condo.”
19. Caught My Man Chatting With Other Girls On My Birthday
“Picture it.
It’s my birthday.
I pay for us to go to a super nice dinner. I’m spruced up in a white dress.
After dinner, we decide to head to the movies. He buys the tickets before we get there. We’re rudely interrupted on our drive by my tire popping. I don’t have a spare but I ask him to take the rim off so my roommate can take me to get a new tire tomorrow.
He says yes but instead complains about how we’ll miss the movie and he just lost out on $14.
In my mind, we’re on a time crunch. My roommate is already on his way to come nab us and he won’t belong. I want to have everything ready to go by then because I already feel bad to inconvenience him. So I get down on my knees in my brand new, beautiful white dress to take this blown tire off on my birthday.
My roommate arrives and finishes up the job. My man is too busy on his phone to even realize the roommate had arrived. We all hop in my roommate’s car. Roommate is driving, I’m in the passenger seat, ex is in the back. I turn back to tell him something and see him messaging other girls on a ‘mingling site’. My blood boils so quickly I could’ve cooked an entire pound of crawfish.
I keep calm on the outside and confront him when we get home. My roommate heads out on his own appointment soon after and I confront my ex.
He lies at first but admits soon enough that he had been going out with other girls. When I tell him to leave, he refuses and grabs a knife from my sink and starts cutting himself saying he will hurt himself as much as he hurts me.
I keep telling him to leave but he won’t. So I did. I text my roommate everything that happened. After his appointment ends, he comes home to find my ex gone.
The last time I saw him is when he sat outside my apartment waiting for me to leave for work. Luckily I had had a bad feeling and went to visit my friend at work. He texts me off random phone numbers here and there. ‘I feel like you’re doing so poorly with me.’ I always block the number.”
18. Husband's Friend Told Me His Wife Is With My Husband
“We were living together at the time. It was Friday night or so, I was home and he (let’s call him Fred) was out without me, which isn’t irregular. Sometimes b*tches just wanna watch tv, ya know? Anyway, I’m flipping through channels and there’s a knock on my apartment door. I look through the peephole to find a good friend of Fred’s standing there.
I open the door, invite said friend inside while also letting him know that Fred isn’t home.
Instead, the friend stands there awkwardly, shifting on his feet, and after a long bit of silence while I’m thinking What the f*ck? he tells me that he knows Fred isn’t home.
‘Fred’s actually out with my wife. They’ve been having an affair for about six months. I caught them the first time right before I helped you and Fred move into this apartment. The three of us decided not to tell you…but this time, I thought I should let you know.’
Then he turned around and left.
I was…in absolute shock. He’d cheated on me before in Ross/Rachel type of situations, ‘we were on a break’ kind of ways where he’d talk me into taking him back. But this time?
I came to realize through the course of the night as I called and texted and emailed and attempted to reach Fred in any capacity that I could, that he was never the man I thought he was, that he had always been the loser and complete a*shole my closest friends had always told me he was.
And he’d proved it to me beyond a shadow of a doubt by betraying two of the most important things in life that I held sacred: the sanctity of marriage (by having an affair with a married woman), and the importance of friendship (by having this affair with his friend’s wife).
Money was very tight as Fred was a f*cking loser and I made 99% of the income and we lived check to check but…I did whatever I needed to do to get out of that relationship and didn’t hold onto any of the flimsy excuses people used to try to keep in contact (i.e., our shared phone line? Broke the contract and paid the $700 disconnection fee.
Our apartment lease? Broke that and paid the $1500 associated with that loss as well. His little sister that I was best friends with at the time? Ended that friendship also, though she and I are still on good terms, just as distant acquaintances now).
Gotta say…haven’t regretted a moment of those decisions, and am currently married to a man who is the love of my life.”
17. Wife Got Pregnant Even Though I Couldn't Have Kids
“Wife of almost 8 years (now ex) said she was going to an ‘overnight retreat’ through her therapist. The town was less than an hour away in a small, old college town. I went home to visit my grandma/family for her bday dinner (2 hrs away). When I got home that night, I was crazy lonely and thought maybe I could see where she was staying (she had called and said she was in an old dorm and that it reminded her of college (where we met)).
Find my iPhone showed she was almost 2hrs away! I never used this so wasn’t sure if it was accurate (hint: it was dead accurate).
I didn’t confront her right away about this; needed hard facts (I’m a data analyst). I was also in the process of upgrading my phone. Looking at our plan I noticed she had a sh*t-ton of minutes. I didn’t recognize the number.
FB recognized the number, I recognized the guy, and that he lived almost 2hrs away.
I didn’t confront her until I called her therapist ‘about the bill’ for the retreat. I wanted to inquire if she had already paid (which I assumed wouldn’t be free lol) or if we’ll get a bill in the mail to ‘figure how we want to pay for it’. Immediate confusion. They had no idea what I was talking about.
I left work immediately and told her I was home and we needed to talk.
She told me about the phone calls. But denied anything happened. ‘Stayed in a separate room’. Just needed to get away.
She moved out. Acted like I didn’t exist most of the week unless we met to talk/try to figure things out. She later planned a wonderful birthday appointment….for him. But I saw the email confirmations when I tried to check my email (it was still logged into her account).
The day of I decided to get a rental car (mine would be easily recognized) and see what I could see for myself. As luck had it, I saw them walking to their fancy steak-house dinner. I parked and followed them. I waited for over 2hrs for them to leave and followed them back to the hotel. They were holding hands and she kissed him at one point.
Was even able to see them walk into their hotel room… Heard several things from normal conversations, flirting, kissing, etc. Realized that if I heard them having s*x I didn’t know what I’d do so I left and texted both of them.
Shortly after I said if she wants any chance to try to work things out, there could be zero contact with him. She agreed… But then the following weekend or two I found out she was at his place again.
That was it. I was done. She didn’t put forth any effort to work on our marriage/relationship.
Months later she informs me she’s pregnant (which is why she saw a therapist as we found out I can’t have kids). I said congrats, that’s what you wanted. I was relieved, honestly, because now people/her family could do the math and they would realize she got pregnant before we were divorced The guy is a pos. Was caught stealing or using drugs at his job (which I think she may have helped him get so he could move in with her. I believe it was a felony or two. Ha
I was a mess for a while. But now, I have a partner who I plan to spend the rest of my life with. I couldn’t be more in love.”
16. Partner Accidentally Called Me While Sleeping With Another Man
“This happened a few years ago, late 2012. I was seeing this guy I met one night at a party. Things started fast, I fell for him, and a few days into know each other we made a weekend trip together. All perfect, I was falling for him. He introduces me to his father really quickly, I met his brother for dinner plans and even took me with him whenever he went to visit his mother’s grave.
All felt great, he was into me, a pretty normal guy and he was really handsome and fit so I was on cloud nine.
Weeks pass and everything is going great. At some point, I had to go to my hometown to my grandmother’s funeral and the same weekend he had a weekend plan on another town close to mine, a couple of hours by bus, so after the funeral and stuff, I was planning on meeting him there to spend the rest of the weekend and come back to our city together.
I was planning on going there on Saturday morning, Friday night and a bit late I received a call from him I picked up the phone and no answer only background noise so after a few seconds I hung up, but I had a strange feeling.
The next day he picked me up at the bus station and before going to the house he has there he asked me to stop at the mall to say hi to a friend of his.
After half an hour waiting there, we finally met him and he introduces us, we all chat for a while and back to our own business. That night he took me out to a bar a told me this guy also worked there some nights.
All-day I was having this weird feeling that started the night before with unintentional call and kept ongoing. I always trusted my gut and knew something was off.
Late that night we were back at our place and he was sleep or showering or something, can really remember but he had a call from this guy, I know I shouldn’t but I saw it on his phone and the next day I decided to better talk with him about this instead of keeping it to my self.
He reassured me that nothing was happening, that he loves me, why would he let me into his family he said.
He even turns the tables and started suggesting that maybe it was me who was hiding something. He became really obsessive and controlling.
I had become a good friend with some of his closest friends and at some point, one of them decided to talk to me in private. He said that he really cared for me and that I should open my eyes as I probably knew that something was going on.
He basically told me that my man at the moment was having a parallel relationship with another guy.
I confronted him again, ending things. He confessed everything and confirmed that this guy he introduced me to that day and he was f*cking, at the bar he was working, the night I got the unintentional call.
We remain together for a week because I’m stupid and I really was in love but I couldn’t keep with it and ended it for real with him calling me horrible things and saying that I was even worse than him for giving him hope to end up things in the end.
And that’s how my last serious relationship ended and how my trust issues intensified.”
15. Partner Got Famous In Town As The Girl Who Goes Out With Two Men
“Was heading down the ‘99% leading to marriage’ path with a woman. One day noticed her communication seemed to go down a very subtle notch and thought it was kind of odd.
A few weeks later I passed a major exam to become fully licensed in the field I work in so we went out to drink, celebrate, and socialize with friends at a local pub that we frequented.
We had a bit too much to drink and I was exhausted so I told her I’d meet her at home as she was still enjoying herself and socializing.
I walked home, both of us only lived a few blocks away, and later woke up in the middle of the night to see she never came back to my place so I texted her to see what happened and she ended up going home to her place instead and was still awake.
She invited me to come over so I did.
When I got there she was heavily intoxicated and jumped on me. Being still a little drunk myself I didn’t resist and we started getting intimate. She seemed quite a bit drunker than me and said, ‘Didn’t we just have s*x in every room?? That was amazing!’ I was very confused because she said it so casually like she really believed it.
I didn’t think too much of it because she seemed very intoxicated and I was still fairly drunk too so I thought ‘eh whatever, we are drunk.’
The next day I asked what happened and why she didn’t come over after I left and she said she got too drunk and had a friend drive her home.
The following weekend I decided to surprise her as she was getting off work and looked in the window to see her and another guy that wasn’t a co-worker walking out the back door.
The front door was locked and she had already closed the business for the day. I drove around back just in time to see her giving this other man a very, very friendly hug.
I jumped out of my car and approached them, they were both in shock and she asked what the heck I was doing there. I said ‘Surprising you after work…’ She introduced me to the other man as her friend who then gave me the most awkward handshake I have ever received in my entire life.
I told her I would see her at home and left.
She got home 15 minutes later and tried to explain that he was the friend that gave her a ride home that other night when she was very drunk and that she was thanking him and that they were just friends. I said fine, very well and we continued our night as normal.
A week later rumors were swirling that she was the girl in town who is going out with two men (our town is only about 16,000 people) and we sat down to have a talk.
After I had left that one night she had continued drinking and had a guy (an out of towner from a few cities over as I later learned) hitting on her that she admitted to hugging and kissing on, and several people we both know witnessed it and were spreading rumors that she was the girl in town with two men.
He ended up being the friend that drove her home that I had awkwardly shook hands with the other week.
She absolutely insisted they never had s*x and were just friends. I reluctantly told her no big deal, it was just a drunken ‘whoopsy’ night, and no harm no foul if no s*x was involved.
A few weeks later, we had planned for her to come over to my place after work and I suddenly got this weird gut instinct and decided to surprise her as I had before.
I get to her work to find her car parked behind the building and the friend I had met before sitting with her. I said hello to him again and told her I would see her back at the house.
The same thing as before, she comes over and insists they are just friends and that I’m overreacting.
A few days later after having heard and seen enough and putting two & two together (obviously he was whom she was referring to that drunken night when she honestly thought she and I had just had s*x in every room), I decided to cut the relationship off.
They made it public that they were a couple about 5 days later.”
14. Dad Proposed After He Got Caught In His Lies
“When I was 4 years old, my dad had been seeing a woman behind his partners’ back. I was too young to understand much of the ordeal, but basically, the woman he was seeing (who is now my stepmother) and he had been chatting online. The woman, we’ll call her Catherine, that he had been with for a year or so prior to chatting to my stepmom behind her back, had no clue of the ordeal UNTIL, one day, while my dad and I were watching some old Superman cartoons, he decided to talk to her on the phone.
Catherine was also home and was in another room. My dad picked up the phone and said ‘Oh hi, how are you doing?’ I recognized the lady on the other end of the phone and yelled: ‘HI JODEE’ (her name). Catherine burst into the room (I think she already was semi-concerned that my dad had been cheating as she had teenage kids that lived with us and they weren’t stupid and probably warned her) and immediately yelled at my dad.
He hung up, then stupidly decided after dinner to PROPOSE TO HER. You can’t make this sh*t up and I have no clue what my dad thought he was doing.
I don’t know ‘Catherine’s’ last name so I haven’t been able to find her or her kids to talk to them since, but that household was very weird at the time, especially since my dad and she had to live together for a little while longer.”
13. Saw Brown Hair On Husband's Undies While Doing His Laundry
“Lately my husband had been leaving me alone to hang out with his buddies multiple times a week. On this day, I’m pregnant and ill, but he wants to go watch football with his buddy. I suggest he invite his friend over to watch at our place instead, but he’s adamant he needs to go. He kisses me on the forehead, tries to bargain to get his way.
When that doesn’t work, he picks a fight and leaves anyway, and doesn’t come home for a few days. He’s ‘crashing on Dan’s couch.’
Ask him to come home so we can talk. He brings by his dirty laundry. Tells me he’s been unhappy for years, we’re too different, he wants to separate, doesn’t want to counsel even though this is the first time he’s bringing any of this up and even though he knows counseling would fix things, doesn’t want our marriage to be fixed.
Says he’s going to continue to crash on Dan’s couch in the meantime. I’m in shock, think he’s crazy and just acting out, so I decide to wash our laundry. I’m sorting his dirty underwear and find a few pairs of his boxers and each pair had long mousy light brown hair actually tangled into the fibers of the underwear. One even had a pube that matched the color of the head hair.
I confront him about it and tell him if you want a divorce, just tell me you’re cheating. He denies it, says he’s not stupid to hook up with a girl when he’s just trying to get over me. Gives me some excuse that when he removes his boxers, just throws them on a pile of clothes on the floor. That it’s not his fault Dan must be bringing some girl around with hair shedding issues and that Dan doesn’t clean his floors.”
12. Found Out The Reason Why I Wasn't Allowed To Enter The Master's Bedroom
“Caught my father, actually. It was the summer of ’87 when my mother had to be flown to Hawaii for laser surgery for her glaucoma (we were living in Japan at the time.) Curiously, my mother couldn’t find her keys before she left and I never thought anything of it. My father – who is normally never home during work hours – started coming home for lunch, which I thought was kind of nice because he hasn’t done that since I was younger.
He warns me to never, under any circumstances, go into the master bedroom. I think to myself, ‘LOL right, because the master bedroom balcony has a fire escape…we’ll see how that goes now that I have a soldering iron,’ but agree openly, and I honored his request. One day, I decided that I’m going to go swimming. I pack my swimsuit and leave just before 1230H.
I run into my dad and acts surprised to see me (which is weird because I was usually home anyway,) and I tell him my plans: I’m going to catch the bus to go to the swimming pool and then be back home by 1600H.
I catch the bus and it takes me to where I need to go. Only I find out that the two options I had for swimming were closed.
I considered going to Toshimaen which is an amusement park and water park, but when I realized that I didn’t bring enough money, I went straight home. I left my home at 1230H and I was already back home at 1330H. I figured that I would either start building some of my Zoids or maybe work on some other projects.
I open the door and find my father wearing unbuttoned slacks and just a t-shirt running towards me while a woman wearing only a bra and panties dashed away, down the hall that led to the bedrooms.
My father laughed and acted surprised, asked why I was back so soon. I told him that the swimming pool was closed and that I didn’t have enough money to go to Toshimaen. So he gives me ¥30,000 and tells me to have fun at the water park, maybe go to Sunshine City and buy an outfit or something.
The anger that wells up inside of me grew more intense with every footstep I took away from our front door and towards the bus stop.
Instead of going to Toshimaen, I go to Tachikawa to see if any of my friends there, and of course, nobody’s there, so I slowly make my way towards Shinjuku and just wander around for while to collect my thoughts. I was terrified to tell my mother what happened because she had developed complications with her glaucoma surgery, so I didn’t call her. Strangely, whenever my mother called our home and my father was home, he would always tell her that I couldn’t come to the phone because I was grounded though he never told her why.
Normally, he won’t allow me to sleep over at any of my friend’s house stating that he didn’t trust me but this summer, he was practically pushing me out of the door, telling me to find some friends to sleepover with. Things were starting to add up, especially with how my mother’s keys magically disappeared before she went to the hospital.
It turns out that the reason why I wasn’t allowed to go into the master bedroom was that my dad’s lover was camping out in the room.
There was a kettle for tea, a mini-fridge (which was new to me), and worst of all: the balcony sliding glass door and fire escape door was unlocked – potentially inviting theft or worse, ignoring the fact that this strange woman who was secretly in my home the same time I was, was using the fire escape as a back entrance to get into our home.
When my mother returned (she was gone from June through early September,) I said nothing until a car dealership called our home one Monday morning. The phone rang as I was eating breakfast and my mother answered the phone. Dealer on the other end wanted to speak with my father’s wife. My mother identified her as such but the dealer on the other end didn’t believe her and said that she sounded different than how she did last week when she and my father were picking out a new car.
My mother was still in hospital last week. When my father realized what was going on, he grabbed the phone, yelled and screamed at the dealer, slammed the phone so hard that it literally broke, and then stormed off to work. That’s when I decided that I had to tell my mother what I had witnessed. Not only that but later that day, our neighbor told my mother that people we know have been watching my father driving around with a strange woman.
It even got to the point where my mother, when grocery shopping, was told by the cashier that she was surprised to see my mother because my father told the cashier that they got divorced and that my mother and I moved away. So that resulted in a very nasty confrontation.
To sum up, my parents split in autumn of that same year, and by November of 1987, my mother and I were without him. In fact, I haven’t seen or heard of my father since 1987.”
11. Business Partner Turns Out To Be A Serial Cheater
“My wife of 17 years was working for her family business: mother and stepfather. I had a job with global responsibilities so I traveled alot, this was something we accepted and worked around. Whenever possible, I would participate and support her in business functions. One spring day, I was golfing with my wife in their company tournament. We were paired with 2 suppliers from different companies.
‘Lisa’ was attractive and in her early 30s, married, with 2 young children. ‘Carl’ was in his late 40s, divorced about 6’5″ tall, and around 150lbs with a head the size of a watermelon. They were carrying on and acting a little too friendly. I mentioned to my then-wife that they were having an affair. She laughed and said ‘No way.’ My professional life is based on rapid personality analysis, so I made sure I talked to ‘Carl’ afterward to get a better sense of who he was.
In my entire life, I have taken an instant and profound dislike to 5 people. Carl was one of them. For several months around that time, my wife and I had been in counseling because my relationship with my in-laws was very strained throughout our marriage and they often manipulated her into believing I was against her career. Fast forward a year.
My wife was increasingly distant and drinking too much, often with her mother and stepfather.
We were sleeping in separate rooms. She dropped the ‘I love you but I am not IN LOVE with you’. I was the type of husband who paid all the bills without looking too much into the details. On the way to the airport, I stuffed a bunch of bills into my laptop bag. Bored on a 4-hour flight I opened up the cellphone bill and noticed my wife having lengthy conversations with 2 different numbers with a west coast area code.
Something immediately struck me about the dates and I noticed many of these conversations were late at night when I was out of town. I felt the onset of a panic attack. We had 2 sons and survived several tragedies already. When I landed I called the first number, it was company X where Carl worked. I knew the other number was him, so I called the number from the hotel phone and he answered by identifying himself by name.
I just blurted out ‘the wrong number’ and went into the bathroom to throw up.
When I got home 4 days later, I put a keystroke logger onto our home computer. That gave me the passwords and information I needed. It turns out my wife was talking to Carl about moving out to be with him, that she was certain I would just let her take my sons 3 time zones away blah blah.
Two mornings after my return, I printed off all the evidence and asked her to follow me to a local garage because I wanted my car to be looked at because the brakes sounded like they needed replacing. As we drove to a local coffee shop, I asked to borrow her phone, pretending mine was dead. She gladly passed it over. I found and dialed his number, putting it on speakerphone.
He answered very cheerily ‘Hey Sweetie what’s up?’ Leaning over to grab the phone, she pushed the wheel violently and we ended up screeching into an industrial plaza. I slammed the brakes and held the phone away from her. ‘No Carl, I’m not sweetie…..it’s (my name)’ He stuttered and stammered and said ‘Oh hey friend, how are things with you’ I replied, ‘I am not your f*cking friend Carl….you are having an affair with my wife and I know all about it.’ She flipped out and I dropped the phone, which she scrambled to turn off.
THEN the truth came out. She had been having an affair with Carl. My a*shole in-laws aided and abetted their affair by providing their cottage for their flings. They had dinner with my in-laws as a deceitful, fake couple. Carl WAS having an affair with Lisa at the golf tournament and broke up that marriage before turning his attention to my wife. He was a serial cheater who targeted married women.
After several years of litigation, we did get divorced. Her relationship with Carl did not last. She eventually re-married a very nice guy who also, somehow, ended up hating the in-laws. We actually get along very well now and we both have solid relationships with our grown sons because I took the high road and never dragged her name in the mud with them.
I am also re-married to a wonderful woman who would never cheat on me in a million years. My new in-laws think the world of me, as I do of them.
LIFE LESSON: When you have the worst in-laws in the world, they can really f*ck up your relationship.
KARMA: The former in-laws are pushing 80 and totally broke after being sued into oblivion by business partners they ripped off. Only 1 of their combined 5 adult children still talks to them.”
10. Caught My Girl Sleeping With Her Ex On Out Bed On Proposal Night
“I was 19 and living with my significant other at the time. We hit a year and I was head-over-heels for this girl. First real love for sure, so I bought a ring for a very special occasion.
The plan: On the day we both work I’m going to go home on my lunch break and decorate the apartment for the proposal that evening. I put out over 50 candles, queued a little Miles Davis on the stereo, and spread thousands of rose petals from the front door all the way to the bedroom and on the bed (obviously a little s*xy time was planned too, but for sake of the story you should also know that we basically lived in that bedroom as the apartment living room was tiny).
I had butterflies like crazy! I went back to work anticipating the rest of my life with this woman.
Speed up a few hours and I take off from work a little early so I can beat her home easily and change for the occasion. I have the ring in my pocket and I’m set. Nerves subside; I’m ready. I call my mom and tell her my plan.
She loves it, ‘call me after’ she exclaims (I was young, yeah, but emotionally elderly and she loved this girl too).
I get home and I see her purse and work shoes on the floor. I’m sure she has to have seen everything and is just in the other room in shock, or maybe she’s naked in bed just anticipating a little something-something. This disappoints me to no end but f*ck it I guess — because of s*x.
I get halfway from the front door to the bedroom hall and I hear it: moaning. P*rn? We were that couple, ok no biggie but at this point, the possibility of infidelity enters my brain. Could she? No. Maybe? I have some low self-esteem so sure, it’s possible. I start to mini-panic but continue down to the hall.
I’m about to fully round the corner and instantaneously see jeans that aren’t mine on the hallway floor and hear both panting and a slapping sound through the wall.
I know it instantly. This is real. I move in and push the door open…
The love of my life is on our quasi-freshly petal-strewn bed getting railed by some dude I don’t quite recognize with about half of the candles lazily lit along the window sill. I stood there for what seemed like days watching my life fade away into thin air. Poof. I eventually recognize the guy; he’s her ex, the abusive one who put her in the hospital not two years prior.
I’d seen the pictures, it wasn’t good. It took a long time for her to let me touch her because of him. I hated this guy.
I left.
I ignored her for two days until I finally picked up and told her I saw what happened. She denied it for a second but then broke down and apologized. I don’t remember the excuse she was attempting to give as I hung up and never spoke to her again.
I picked up my things while she was at work and left the key on the counter. I ended up selling the diamond but I still keep the band in a safety deposit box.
I still carry that event with me today, but the funny part of this story is I actually saw her again for the first time the other day at a funeral of a mutual friend. She’s married (not that guy) with kids, and I’m happy for her. We hugged.”
9. Had A Talk With My Ex While I Was High
“Back in college, I went out with a girl who I worked with before we started seeing each other. She had been hanging out with me a lot and broke up with her man because he was sh*tty and distant with her and started developing feelings for me. Things were going great for months but all of a sudden she started becoming distant and the time we would spend together was very one-sided.
When I confront her about this she says she needs some space and I respected it. I try not to bother her or try to hang out for a week and it was killing me not knowing how she was doing or really having much interaction.
Finally, at the end of the week, I say f*ck it and go hang with a friend of mine to smoke and play video games at his house.
After chilling for a good bit I’m about to leave and we get into a long convo about stuff that ends up with him excitedly yelling my name as he is saying goodbye. I just barely hear someone on the opposite side of the street say ‘omg it’s him’.
I looked to see who it was but it was too dark at this time in the evening and I was too out of it to make out exactly who it was but I had a feeling at the bottom of my gut it was her and her ex.
The last thing I wanted to do was confirm that feeling so I start hastily walking towards my car just hoping she thinks I didn’t recognize her. She comes running over to me asking me if we could talk about this. I say ‘sure, but not right now cause I’m way too high for this sh*t’
We talk later and after her pleading with me for hours kind of dodging my questions about if she cheated on me and she says she is just so confused right now in her life and I just decide to break it off. It didn’t work so well though cause being in a small country college town in the middle of summer is boring and lonely as f*ck. Ended up back with her again until she cheated on me again with the same guy.
It was a bad summer.”
8. Caught My Partner's Ex Inside The Closet Naked
“I used to work nights which required leaving at 9 pm, getting home at 8 am. Would work 6 days a week, if not 7. One morning when I get home, she hands me her laptop and asks me to pay the rent. A message pops up on her iMessage that says ‘That was close.’ from a JB.
Huh, weird.
A few days later, I go to a concert before work.
Made arrangements with my boss to come in 2 hours later, and leave 2 hours later. The venue was close to my house, and I had to grab a few things before my shift, so I head back home without knocking.
I walk in and hear ‘hi honey.’ And I said hi back, and she sounded confused and said ‘Rebar?’ as if she didn’t think it was me.
Coincidentally that night, when I get to work, my boss tells me he won’t need me to stay late, since we have extra staff that morning, so I just work a shorter shift and leave at the usual time.
I get home early and walk-in. My ex comes bolting down the stairs and starts telling me how she felt sick and couldn’t sleep and didn’t want me to get sick and could I sleep in the guest room.
Fine by me.
She expects me to walk into the spare room but I go into our room to grab some clothes to change into and I hear hangers moving in the closet. I open the door and see my ex’s ex (JB) in the closet naked. I start laughing and get in my car to drive to my brother’s house and she comes running after me crying.
She lets him get dressed and leave, and we have a long talk which was just me going ‘are you f*cking kidding me’ before I go move in with my brother and cut all ties.”
7. Ex Was Too Drunk To Remember I Was In Her Apartment
“I was going out with this girl for a couple of years, never lived together though. We were out one night, and she kept getting these texts and calls from her ‘friend’ that was going through a nasty breakup and needed to meet up with her for some moral ‘support’. She asked if I did not mind and if we could cut the night short so she could meet her there at the bar we were at and can be there for her friend, so to speak.
She could see that I was a bit frustrated that we were cutting our night short but I said ‘Yeah sure, you should be there for your friend doing this, I’ll just head home for the night.’ She immediately said ‘No, don’t, take my apartment key and wait for me there and I’ll be home in an hour, I promise’ I took her word, got her keys, and headed to her apartment while I waited for her.
It was past 2 a.m. bars closed I call her and she states she’s on her way. I call her at 3 a.m. and she tells me she had to stop at her parents’ house for something. I give up and fall asleep in her bed, in my boxers nonetheless, until I hear a struggle at the door trying to unlock it and once unlocked struggling with the chain lock I had placed on the inside of the door.
This woke me up, and when I look at the clock, it’s 5 a.m. way past the bar’s closing time. I open the door (in my boxers), and as soon as I d,o a guy comes in and heads straight towards the restroom with no hesitation.
My first thought was, ‘he’s been here before if he knows where the restroom is.’ She stands there asking me if we can talk tomorrow.
Embarrassed while putting my clothes on I say that we are talking right now. Long story short, the guy comes outside while we are talking, and as I expect him to go to her side, he actually comes to mine and looks right at her as well and says, ‘You have some explaining to do.’ I was shocked and surprised he even apologized saying he had no idea whatsoever and it seems like we were both being juggled by her for some time. In the end we both deuced out, we shook hands and politely went our ways, we were both just happy that we were both civilized and she didn’t cause a crazy incident between me and the other guy.”
6. Married My High School Sweetheart But It Didn't Turn Out Well
“18 years old, had my high school sweetheart and we got pregnant. Married her thinking we were gonna grow old and be the couple that our family talks about being together for 75+ years someday. Most beautiful girl in school and I loved her. Within the first few months, I felt something was off tho. Couldn’t pin it down tho, convinced me that it was just because I was starting a family at such a young age.
But it kept persisting. She would hang out with ‘friends’ out all hours of the night, tell me it was a girls’ night or sh*t like that. She was a cheerleader and one day I went to go watch them practice. She said hey can you watch my phone for me and of course I said sure, she went to walk away but then came back, grabbed it, and proceeded to what I assume for all these years to go through and delete everything incriminating from it.
In hindsight that should have been my sign to back out, but I stuck with it.
One night I’m at work and texting her back and forth like normal, but then she just suddenly stops. I can’t tell you why, but for some reason that night I just knew something was wrong. That deep gut feeling that something is off. So I went and told my boss hey I’m not feeling good can I go home? Luckily he said yeah and I went to our apartment.
Walked into my wife and my friend in bed together. I was so heartbroken and hurt I didn’t know what to do. I just told him to leave before I beat his a*s, and then drove miles away from the situation.
She somehow managed to make me keep it a secret for a few more months, tried to make it work. But one night I was riding with my mom and I just blurted out what had happened and broke down all over again. Ended it shortly after that. This was ten years ago and I still have trust issues from it.”
5. Wife Used Stomach Condition As An Excuse To Hide Her Secrets
“I was married for 20 years. Had my suspicions for several years a long time ago but those actually turned out to be false. Well, fast forward to recently. I hadn’t thought she was cheating on me for a long time and stopped asking her questions. More years went by and I noticed she was in the bathroom a lot. She told me she had a stomach condition recently diagnosed so I offered her my support and didn’t think anything else of it.
She told me she didn’t want me going to the appointments with her because she was embarrassed about it.
I finished work early one day and didn’t tell her like I usually do. I came home, heard moaning coming from the bathroom, and failed at trying to kick the door in because it opened outward. She opens the door and I see some guy’s big ol’d*ck on her screen.
She admitted that she’d been f*cking this guy both on the phone and in-person for three months. The stomach condition was of course fake and she was just using that to s*xt him in the bathroom and using her appointments to ‘specialists’ as excuses to meet in person for hours.
Long story longer, he was the third of three guys she cheated on me with within three months.
Using excuses ranging from wanting to avoid traffic for why she left hours early for work or having trouble with our daughter in the mornings and having to stay at the school for a while to make sure things were ok.
Lesson learned. My tips to any guy who thinks they’re being cheated on, if it doesn’t make sense, look into it. F*ck privacy and check their damn phone. If you’re married and can’t look at each other’s phones something isn’t right, to begin with though.”
4. Spent Two More Years With Husband After Catching His Lies
“I went to inpatient treatment after having a bit of a breakdown. My (brand new) husband came to pick me up for a nice off-site visit. We went to dinner and then Target. I was in the dressing room trying on a sweater and turned on my cell phone (he brought it to me so I could catch up with family during the visit). It blew up with messages from the partner of a woman who was getting non-stop messages from my husband while she was showering.
Screenshots of their conversation the night before followed. He spent hours trying to convince her to come f*ck him in our bed after they’d met for drinks. I knew about the ‘goodbye’ drinks. We were moving across the country in a few weeks and he was meeting friends of ours alone because I was in treatment.
She continually said things like, ‘taking off your ring at dinner doesn’t mean you’re not married,’ and, ‘I have a man and I respect your wife,’ while he said things like, ‘no woman has ever turned my head the way you did tonight (not even me on our wedding day two weeks prior?!),’ and, ‘please, I need to taste you.
I need to feel your skin against mine. The side door opens right into my bedroom.’
He was never going to tell me. Excuses went from, ‘I wanted to prove to myself how much I love you by almost cheating and then not following through with it,’ to, ‘I was so lonely because you left right after the wedding,’ to even, ‘if she’d actually shown up I’d have turned her away.’ I was fragile and stayed with him. I moved away from everything and everyone I knew two weeks later, after leaving treatment early against my therapist’s advice, and spent two miserable years with him.
Wow. I was an idiot.”
3. Wife Was Trying Hard To Prove Her Fake Innocence
“I went to work in VA for the weekend, already didn’t trust my wife but had to work and ‘we’re working on us’ so I hit the road and left her the car. On day 2 of my expo she calls and says she needs to buy a phone charger cuz she left hers at work. Told me she had a panic attack and couldn’t drive.
Didn’t call any of our mutual friends or either of our families to help her out because ‘she didn’t want my mom to have to drive in the rain’ (my mom’s driven through blizzards in the mountains and told us she’d help any time we needed btw) and she didn’t call her best friend whom I’ve actually met because ‘he was asleep’ then she disappeared with some guy she’s told me about but I didn’t meet before…
But we’re working on building trust back so I let it go and finish my weekend. When I get back were fussing about something unrelated and I mentioned I felt weird about the events of the weekend. The wife goes on to show me her texts to ‘prove her innocence’ of her own accord (I didn’t even ask to see them this time)… Not only was her best friend up and talking to her during the time but she and the guy in question deleted Different Parts of the conversation than she had deleted..
(she even had him send screenshots to help with the proof).
By this time she’d lied so much (about many different things) the infidelity itself almost didn’t even matter anymore. I literally laughed at them and explained their errors and asked her what she wanted for dinner all in the same message I replied.
I’m currently going through a separation and on day 2 of this she showed back up at our old house to gather things….with the girl she cheated on me with the most during our relationship. I’m sure she wasn’t the only one but I had literally caught them deleting messages about how much they loved each other and hated me. Worst part? The extra b*tch was my friend before I’d met my wife and I introduced them…
Damn. The more I type the more I realize my marriage sucked lol.”
2. Found Out My Wife Was Making Fun Of Me While We're On The Bed
“Went out with a girl for 5 years and then married for 5 years. One night my wife asks me to show her p*rn that I like and have s*x with her while watching it. This was extremely out of character because she was very against p*rn and I didn’t really look at p*rn all that often. I said no at first and she kind of got mean about it, like ‘Come on.
Be a man.’ (Also, out of character) So we did. It was super awkward and it was just vanilla p*rn. After she was really standoffish and just got in bed on her iPad. She laid on her side toward me so I couldn’t see the screen and was typing a lot. I asked her what she was doing and she just said she was browsing the usual.
It all seemed pretty weird, but I just ended up going to sleep.
I wake up the next morning on a Saturday and my wife has already left to go hang out with her sisters. I start to remember what had happened the night before and see her iPad on the nightstand. I open it up and there is a zoomed-in amateur picture of a guy’s boner taken in a car.
I was like, ‘What the hell?’ It is on a Flickr account. I click back and it shows two albums. I click the first album and it has a bunch of photos of random naked women and then one photoshopped picture of two naked girls with my wife’s head on one and the other with the head of my friend’s wife. Now, I am really confused.
I click back again and go to the other album and hundreds and hundreds of nude pictures of my wife, nude pictures of my brother’s best friend (who is 10 years older than us, pictures of them having s*x, pictures of s*xual scratches on her body, etc., etc., etc. It hit me like a punch in the face. I went down to the first picture and it was taken 2.5 years prior.
It was a photo of my wife in lingerie when I was in law school (in another state) and it was a picture that I happen to walk in on her at the time and she said she was taking it for me. Guess not. Then, I noticed a chat feature on the side and started to read them. The most recent one was a discussion from the night before detailing the s*x and p*rn with me and they were both making fun of me.
My life got turned upside down that day.
Now, that is not the whole story. Life and marriage are very hard and I was not a bad husband but I wouldn’t classify myself as a good husband either. As I reflect back on the time I was a very average immature husband that did some things wrong and did some things right, but nothing to brag about really.
So, it doesn’t surprise me at all that she had an affair. Prior to that day, for about 6+ my wife had become much more absent mentally and physically and was a different person. She was going to school and working full time, which I was very proud of and grateful for. However, when she would come home at night she wouldn’t hug me or say she loved me and would just say, ‘Hi.
I am going upstairs to do my homework.’ We really started to drift apart and it sucked.
I had started flirting with a girl at my work starting about the same time my wife changed and had been having a s*xual affair for about 3 months. When I confronted my wife about the affair, I ended up telling her I had an affair too. It’s funny because her family didn’t believe that I had had an affair and made it up to save face in a weird way.
Also, I had a lot of people who asked me why I told her about my affair and that they would not have. I am a fairly honest person and had I not told her it would have eaten me forever.
It was the worst day of my life, but it turned out to be perfect for both mine and my ex’s life. We got divorced and I ended up seeing and marrying the girl I had the affair with.
She is the best person I have ever met. My true love and best friend. My ex is still happily going out with my brother’s best friend for years now and I am legitimately happy for her. Life is not pretty, but I really learned from my experiences all around and now I feel like an awesome husband and a cheerleader for my new wife. I am happy that I got to go through all of those experiences and wouldn’t change a thing.”
1. Partner Was Texting With Another Girl While I Was Taking Care Of Him
“My man went to vegas for five days and left me with his lovable but terribly behaved dog.
The entire time he was gone, he was bad with communication. He’s always been a terrible texter and his cell phone reception is terrible so we can’t face time.
He comes back and 12 hours after the airport, ruptured his Achilles doing nothing. Karma. I take care of him for a week and a half and he’s weird.
Standoffish and we start fighting over little things. I start to get stressed but figure it’s just the pain pills making him so cold. I just want him to appreciate what I’m sacrificing for him, waiting on him hand and foot.
I’m parking at Target, we were there to pick up new food for his dog. I turn to say something to him since I’d been ignored the entire drive and he was sending drool emojis to someone.
Turns out he f*cked her in Vegas and started talking to her because we were fighting so much.
I can’t even explain to you the death feeling I felt in my heart. So blatantly right in front of me, all the signs came together that I’d ignored because I didn’t want to come off as ‘crazy’ or ‘clingy.’ I’ve gone out with a lot of smooth talkers who you would definitely think would cheat.
He isn’t the type at all. He was the nicest, sweetest, most loving person until I was faced with that.
I waited on him hand and foot. Drove him everywhere even when I HATE driving. Cooked all his meals and cleaned so he wouldn’t become depressed. The entire time he was texting another girl because my anxiety over his injury was too much for him. I never asked him who he was constantly texting and I’m not the type to check phones.
Now I feel like I can never let my guard down again. I feel so incredibly dumb.”
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