People Speak About The Moment They Caught A Filthy Liar
33. Caught My Partner With Her Trainer Who's Also In A Relationship
“I have been going out with this girl for about two years and it was great until about the last 6 months of our relationship. She was less affectionate and was starting to get more distant. I knew something was up, so one night we went partying with a bunch of our friends and I had to hold her phone because she did not have any pockets.
While I was taking a pee, her phone goes off and I see a message pop up, it was from her trainer, and it was something naughty. I don’t remember exactly what it said. I proceeded to open and see these strings of text and suggestive pictures they sent to each other over the course of at least 5-6 months of us being in a relationship.
I was more hurt and shocked rather than being mad… anyway, this loser already had a partner because my ex would tell me all about how her trainer is in a serious relationship to let my guard down. I proceeded to send everything to myself, from the chat history and the pictures they sent to each other.
I made it my goal to find the trainer’s partner and send her everything I had.
The problem was I never met this girl and I only knew her name (social media was no help). I treated my ex like nothing happened and made sure she thought I was still clueless. Anyway, I finally found the trainer’s significant other after months of search and showed her everything.
I didn’t tell my ex until one day she came to me crying and was furious that I looked at her msgs. Apparently, the trainer’s partner threatened her and told her that she would beat the crap out of her if she ever sees my ex.
I laughed and told her I didn’t care.
Anyway, that was a long time ago and I don’t know what happened to the trainer and my ex. Good riddance.”
32. Ex Fiancée Slept On The Couch With Her Phone Unlocked
“Was engaged to my ex whom I met in college. We moved into an apartment together. She started falling asleep in the living room late at night.
I went to wake her up one day and happened on her phone opened to an instant message conversation. She had been having an affair with her ex whenever she traveled to see her sisters in Chicago. From history, it looked like she got pregnant and had it terminated around the time we started going out.
She also likely two-timed me during a trip to Vegas and NY. As a bonus, I later found out from her friend/coworker that she was trying to proposition hooking up on a work trip they took to Chicago.
I broke off the engagement and she flipped out demanding I move out of the apartment I originally found and subsequently added her on to the lease.
She then threatened to tell her family I abused her (obviously false, she wanted an excuse for the breakup).
Unfortunately, the only apartment I could get at the time was in the same building down the hall. I took it and had the most awkward 3 months until she moved out.”
31. Won My Son's Custody After Catching My Wife In The Act
“Set up. 1995 so not everybody had a cell phone. We lived in a 3rd-floor apartment that sat on the edge of a cliff (so no escaping out of the bedroom window).
I pretty much knew my wife was two-timing me but, to be frank, I really didn’t care anymore. I was only staying with her because I adored my son and, honestly, I always looked forward to her leaving to see ‘friends’ so he and I could just hang together.
I traveled a lot so my time with him was invaluable to me.
I got done with a trip a day early and switched flights. Of course, I had to take a taxi home because God forbid she come to the airport and get me.
So I walk into the apartment and the first thing I notice is my son is not there. That’s odd because her car is in the lot.
Hmmm… So I go open the bedroom door and there she is with another man. They stop and look at me with the ‘deer in the headlights look.’ I simply say in a neutral tone of voice ‘when y’all are done I’ll be in the living room.’ Close the door, take the phone off of the hook so they couldn’t call for help, grab a beer and turn on the game.
A couple of hours later they come out and I asked where my son was. Turns out she left him with some friends that were dealers and I had asked her specifically not to have him around them before. I went ‘hmm’. Then I told the guy that we needed to talk outside. Now he stood about 3″ taller than me and probably about 20 lbs heavier.
Pretty built dude. So we get to the parking lot and he’s all jacked up for a fight. I just said ‘look dude I can’t stop you from being with her or her being with you but if you want her, take her and all the bills that go with her and have the gosh darn decency not to have relations with her here. I have to sleep in that bed’.
He was nonplussed, got in his car, and drove away.
I moved out the next day and took my son with me. Got full custody about 8 months later with child support from her for the next 17 years. Didn’t have to raise my voice, didn’t have to make a scene, and got sweet sweet revenge because what kind of woman these days wants to admit that THEY lost custody.”
30. Crazy Girl Broke The Door To Catch Me With Her Man
“This is kind of backward, as I wasn’t finding out my partner was two-timing but was hooking up with a guy who wasn’t single (didn’t realize this) and his girl caught us. We were in bed and things were getting heated. He had a door in his bedroom that led to the outside, and it was about 4 am. All of a sudden this 5-foot girl KICKS IN the door, the doorframe breaks off the wall, and wood flies everywhere, the door broke off the wall, it was a mess.
She immediately goes for him and he stands up in his boxers, she’s punching him and screaming and kicking, I was SO SCARED and figured if I just stayed still she wouldn’t see me….she pointed at me and yelled ‘get the heck out of here’ to which I booked it out of the room and up the stairs to where my guy friend was sleeping. He was already at the top of the stairs and saw me coming full force. Stuff was crazy, and I still feel guilty 4 years later that I was ‘the other woman’ to this girl. They stayed together and actually just broke up a few months ago.”
29. Partner Would Pick Fights To See His Other Women
‘We’d been arguing the week prior and I decided to go sleep at my parents’ house for a couple of nights to give us a little space, but we were still very much a couple. We’d been texting on a Saturday night and he said he missed me and wanted me to come home soon. I decided to go by our place with coffee on Sunday morning and texted him to let him know I was heading over.
I didn’t get a response but figured he was still asleep- I’d just let myself into my apartment, using my key. I took one step through the front door and heard a female laugh. Took a deep breath and walked into the living room, to find my man and his ex cuddling on my couch. To this day, I count it as one of my strongest moments that I unflinchingly looked straight at both of their startled faces and calmly said ‘oh sorry to interrupt guys, don’t mind me’, walked out, and DIDN’T throws the two cups of scalding hot coffee I was holding at them.
Got in my car and drove back to my parents’ place, and only then did I let myself cry. My ex called about a half-hour later and laughed when I told him he hurt me. Turns out it had been going on for a long time and that’s why he’d pick fights with me- so he could go out and meet up with her (and it turns out a few other girls.)
Moved my crap out the same day, and only texted him once after that phone call to let him know all my stuff was out and the landlord was taking my name off the lease (the landlord was amazing). Only actually saw him once after that, at a bar a few months later, he was staring over all night and giving me dirty looks while I had a great time with my friends. The best revenge is being happy after the fact.”
28. Partner Was With Another Man In My Car While Carrying My Baby
“She was on a ‘work night out’ – they were at bowling – she went off the radar for about 2-3 hours, I was worried about her, especially because she was pregnant at this point – it got to around 2 am. I was thinking to myself bowling isn’t even open this late, every bad thought raced through my mind like she’d been in an accident on the way home or something.
Then she got in the house around 3 am, I immediately cuddled her and asked if she was okay, she said yeah and that her phone had run out of battery – I asked why she was so late, she told me she dropped two of her co-workers at a bar after bowling, the time frame still didn’t make sense to me as the bar was only around 15 minutes from our house.
Then when she was getting ready to come into bed, her pants were on backward and were sitting just above her knees – I was like what the heck happened to your pants? She blamed her bump for them being down, I let it slide but was a bit suspicious of everything.
Then a couple of weeks later, I went to pick her up from work (we shared a car), she came out with one of the girls she said she had dropped at the bar that night, I asked if she had a good night, she didn’t have a clue what I was talking about.
I was like when (my girl) dropped you and so and so at the bar? She said that never happened. I knew straight away she’d two-timed, she started crying as soon as she got in the car, said she’d met someone she went to school with and they hooked up in OUR car, whilst she was carrying OUR baby
My son is the best thing that’s ever happened to me, I got a DNA test because I couldn’t trust her anymore, he is mine thankfully. But I left her after I knew what she’d done, she blamed pregnancy hormones. The thing that probably hurts most is she didn’t want to be intimate with me at all when she was pregnant, said she felt disgusting, but then she does it with someone else, it ruined me.”
27. Guy Two-Timed Me With Our Workmate And Made Me Suffer For Four Months
“I used to work with and was roommates with my ex, it’s how we met. A girl at work (Let’s call her Sarah) known for being the town bike was on my team. I didn’t like her beforehand because she was just not a good person overall (typical California entitled valley girl voiced female, gossiped behind your back while claiming to be your best friend, would go for married/taken guys or whoever was closest at the time, screamed at our boss while he was passed out that she hoped he died in his sleep because his kids and wife would be better off in front of all our coworkers at a going-away party for said boss…with his wife and kids in the next room, not sure how she didn’t get fired).
We were rearranged onto new teams and she was placed on mine.
She annoyed the new (ex-military) guy next to her in less than 2 weeks (said he couldn’t actually have PTSD because her current military partner had a more stressful job than he ever did) and I had requested to be sat far away from her the moment I knew she was on my team. Our lead had also learned how poisonous she was so Sarah got sat by herself for a while.
Sarah complained. ‘Nobody liked her’. ‘Nobody included her’. ‘It’s all ex-military guy’s fault for turning everyone against her’. (He was actually super professional and nice, he had just turned down her incessant flirtations because he was a faithful married man and she didn’t like that) So HR moved her to another team after being on ours for 3 weeks.
They moved her to my (currently ex) man’s team.
Let’s call him Loser. Sarah and Loser both smoked. So they started going out on breaks together. Loser and I lived together, I drove us everywhere, we were together a lot. He started to act differently with his phone. He started taking it with him everywhere, never leaving it alone, he started having secret whispered phone conversations for an hour outside at 2 am when he thought I was asleep, he would text someone frequently, and most importantly, he put a lock on his phone for the first time ever.
Always trust your gut feelings. I knew something was up, and he would give me the normal deflective, gaslighting answers when I asked him about his behavior. ‘I’m just talking to friends.’ ‘I’ve always had my phone next to me, what are you talking about?’ ‘Stop being jealous nothing is wrong,’ ‘I locked my phone so people at work can’t get into it.’
I kept an eye on him for 2 weeks, caught him going out alone in her van during work hours a couple of times.
‘We were just getting smokes, calm down.’ Saw him taking walks alone with her at work, ‘she’s going through some stuff, don’t be jealous’, stuff like that. We used to use each other’s phones freely, but he had changed that with his password. I watched him enter his phone password a few times and memorized it.
Normally I don’t advocate invading someone else’s privacy, but when we live together, are in a relationship for 3 years, I’m the one driving us everywhere, paying for all the gas, paying for all the groceries (and doing all the cooking and most times cleaning because he would say he would do it later and dishes would sit there for weeks until they stank) and most of the bills and rent in California because he was lazy and would waste all his funds on substances and video games and partying no matter how much I asked him to contribute his half (his mom bailed him out so many times by sending him funds), and my gut feeling and eyes tell me something isn’t right, then I will absolutely go through your stuff to see if I’m right.
Which is what he did, he left his phone in my car on accident when I went to CVS, and I checked his text messages. She very recently sent naughty photos and they are burnt onto my retina, along with multiple explicit videos.
I went home and asked him if he had something to tell me. He denied it over and over again until I threw his phone at him, and he still tried to deny it until I told him exactly what I saw, which is when he turned into pleading forgiveness.
After I calmed down, I asked for one thing. Please don’t be alone with her. We have to work with her, but if you guys are out on a smoke break, just don’t walk out alone with her, and don’t walk in alone with her. If she is out there by herself, walk away. Treat her professionally, but I just don’t trust you two alone. He agreed, and for the next four months he constantly, every single day, would go out alone with her, tried to sneak alone into her van, went to parties she was at, etc.
Every day, he stomped on my heart for 4 months. She knew what she was doing, and would look at me with a smug smile Every. Single. Time. They walked out the door together. I talked to him countless times. He agreed the first several times, but eventually just told me ‘She’s my friend, it’s your fault I two-timed you because you didn’t give me enough attention, I’m not going to ignore her because of you, I won’t do that to her.’
I guess it was okay to do it to me, instead.
I guess cooking for you, and covering more than my fair share of bills so we could live somewhere, and driving you to work every day for 3 years, and taking a week off work to chauffeur your visiting grandma and brother around, and spending almost all our time together is ‘not giving you enough attention’ during the only time we weren’t together…at work when he was on her team.
It was a bullcrap excuse.
Something happens, when you have to go through any heightened feeling (like anguish and betrayal) for a long amount of time, like 4 months every day. You start going numb. You feel less and less for the person hurting you until eventually, they can’t hurt you anymore. You just stop caring.
I believe the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference.
Why didn’t I leave before then? We were living together, he did contribute some to bills, we worked together, I wanted to wait until the lease was up in several months and disengage politely.
After 4 months of torture, there was a work party. I had stopped going to work parties ages ago because he would go every time, and every single time he would get intoxicated and cause drama with either me or someone else and I was tired of dealing with it. Easier just to not go. I asked him to tell me if she showed up, said I wouldn’t be upset I would just come out and hang because I didn’t trust him, and he agreed.
The party passes, he tells me the next day that he had fun and she wasn’t there, end of the story.
I woke up to his phone on his belly at 2 am going off repeatedly. I saw messages rapidly scrolling past, from Sarah. I poked him awake and asked why Sarah was blowing up his phone talking about a bed, and I told him he had better be honest with me so he reluctantly showed me the messages because I had already seen the gist of what she was saying.
She was upset with him because the night before, at the work party she supposedly wasn’t at, somehow he had ended up at her place. In her bed. Enough to pee all over her $400 bed. Lol. So she was demanding he replace her bed, that he was going to give her $400 next Monday, that he was a stupid butthead.
‘I swear I didn’t sleep with her though!’
Lol, I may have laughed in his face.
You were in her bed, Loser. Come on. If I had any vestige of feelings left for him at this point, they disappeared in a cloud of hilarity for the absurdity of the situation. I was just done.
So of course this pillar of honesty and responsibility would take ownership of his actions and pay her immediately on Monday, right? Since he was so happy to have her on his team and see her every day and all.
Yeah. He called in to work sick on Monday. And Tuesday. And Wednesday. And Thursday. Then just stopped calling in. He just…stopped going to work, to avoid dealing with her. Must be nice, smoking and playing video games all day instead of dealing with your problems.
Anyway. A synopsis of the aftereffects, he stole my car while intoxicated one night with no license at 1 am and claimed he was trying to buy me flowers (had no flowers) when I caught him screeching through a red light intersection outside the apt, he stole my phone while I slept and claimed it was the dog, when I got a replacement phone he dunked it in water while I slept and erased only my male contacts and claimed it was the cat (He was a pathological liar and an idiot).
Then when we went out to WeHo for a fun night with a group he turned into an angry drinker once he had me alone and asked me to get back together with him and when I repeatedly said no and laughed in his face he threw my flip flop across the street, grabbed me by the arms to keep me from getting my shoe and leaving, would walk away then come back pleading again, then turn angry again when I said no.
Then when I told him we were done being friends completely he punched me in the head a couple of times, kicked me when I fell down, and he went to jail with a nice restraining order. His brother is the opposite of Loser, is a priest actually and a nice guy. He came over and checked on me every hour that night to make sure I didn’t have a concussion, offered to pay for a new phone, to help me find a new place to live.
Just a great guy. We talked about how Loser had a history of destroying electronics in a fit of intoxicated rage and would try to hit him all the time. His mother loved me and would call frequently to tell me she loved me and was sorry for Loser’s behavior.
The worst part is his priest brother had just moved to LA from RI after saving up for years to go to his dream school.
He literally had shown up a week before Loser went to jail. His brother spent so much money and time taking care of Loser, putting him up in a hotel, bailing him out, neutering his cat for him (Loser was too lazy to do it beforehand and the cat sprayed everything he could…like some poor guy on the bus when he was being transported) that he failed out of his classes for attendance and couldn’t reapply for another 6 months to a year, so both he and Loser had to move back to RI.
Everything about that guy was poison, everyone he touched was worse off. There’s of course way more that he did than that, but this is a book now already.”
Ladies, you have to do better. You can't stay around to see if they'll change, or stay friends with them. Let. Them. go. Have some self respect and move with your life.
26. Partner Betrayed Me And Impregnated Another Woman
“I was seeing this guy for a while and was totally infatuated with him. I started noticing him not responding as much to phone calls or texts so I was a bit concerned. One day I texted him and asked him if everything was okay. He said he was ‘just feeling sick’. So I just assumed he was feeling down and decided I would surprise him with a basket full of goodies for when you have a cold (Kleenex, vitamin C, chocolate, etc).
Before I leave to go to his house I text him telling him I’m popping by. As I’m turning into his driveway I notice that there’s a car I’ve never seen before (sporting pink car seats and a tweety bird dash cover). I thought that was a little weird that I have never seen that car before but just shrugged it off. As I’m about to get out of the car he texts me back saying ‘don’t come over! I’m fine, just don’t want to get you sick.’ So I decided instead to just leave.
The next day I’m catching up with our mutual friend who just came back from deployment. He didn’t know we were going out while he was gone. As we are talking on the phone he casually drops ‘so I went to Brad’s house yesterday to tell him I’m back, man he could have told me he was hooking up with some chick, I caught him in bed with this girl’. I dropped the phone. I immediately texted ‘screw you’ and cut ties. Found out 6 months later he was a father and now he has sole custody because the girl he two-timed me with is a junkie and left their child in the park while she used. Dodged a bullet.”
25. Skeptical Wife Turns Out To Be The One Lying
“Married for about 4 years — had a weekend business trip every few months. She didn’t trust me so I always invited her to come along but she typically declined (or if she did go, she would usually be upset/bored during it).
Went on one just about 2 weeks before our anniversary. Left Saturday and typically got back late on Sunday night. Turned out to be a pretty slow weekend and ended up getting back much earlier that day.
Walked in, heard the bedroom door slam, and had a pretty big hunch of what was happening. Heard the two of them pretty loudly talking in the other room, followed by him walking out with nothing but boxers a few minutes later like nothing was happening.
Never said a thing to either, it was pretty clear what was going on and there wasn’t really anything that needed to be said.
The two of them ended up disappearing for a few days before she came back. I had all the divorce paperwork ready to go where she just needed to sign it. The two of them ended up disappearing together and the last I heard was that she ended up pregnant, he took her car and destroyed her belongings and they both parted ways very shortly after all of this.
As much as it hurt back then, looking back on it now, my life has changed much more for the better ever since. Never wanted it to end that way, but I also wasn’t going to just let that happen and forget about it. We both made it clear early on that that was just an immediate end if it were to ever happen (from either of us).”
24. Caught My Partner In The Back Seat Of My Car With Someone Else
“This was a solid 6 years ago now but some friends and I (including my ex) were planning on going to the local swimming pool.
She and I start walking from the house to the pool, (mutual friend’s house, not hers). She said she was gonna stay behind to talk to another girl for a bit, one of her friends who lived in the house so it made sense to me.
So we start walking, it’s about a 15-minute walk (small town and we liked to walk around places instead of the drive at the time) as soon as we get there, I realize I had forgotten my sunscreen. I left it in my car so I walk back to the house to get it.
I start walking up and I see her getting too close to someone in the back seat of my car, someone I knew as well (not a friend, just knew) she sees me, gets out and is trying to explain herself and the guy runs away as fast as he can and nearly gets hit by a car on his way out.
I didn’t speak to her during this, I just got in my car and left, with both their stuff still in my backseat. (I wasn’t thinking and honestly didn’t realize their stuff was still back there, I just wanted to leave).
She had to find her way home phoneless. I mailed her phone to her and threw their clothes in a trash can as soon as I realized they were still in my back seat.
This was a crappy time in my life and that was the 3rd time I had been betrayed but the way I found that one out was by far the worst. You can imagine what that did to my confidence after the fact.”
23. Dad Made Mom Sleep On The Couch Where She Hooked Up With My Sister's Man
“It’s about halfway through my senior year of high school, just after Christmas break. My friend comes to me and asked if I would be mad if he went out with my sister. He was a year ahead of me and already a member of the National Guard in Iowa. The dude has saved lives already and he’s only 19. So of course I gave him my blessing.
Why wouldn’t I want my sister to go out with a real hero? The perfect American couple. A cheerleader and military man.
I graduated and moved out of the house. I struggle for a few months. Get into a fistfight with my roommate and move back home just before Thanksgiving. When I move back, I learn that mom is sleeping on the couch every night. She and dad aren’t speaking.
My friend isn’t coming around anymore. And my sister was living with my grandparents.
Turns out, G.I. Bro wasn’t a very good bro. My dad picked my sister up from cheerleading camp over the summer and when they got home, caught my friend getting it on with my mom on the couch. Dad made her ‘sleep in her lies’ until she couldn’t handle the guilt and moved out.
I’m still close with my brother, who was 12 at the time. Sis too. Dad has a problem with the bottle and we don’t talk for unrelated reasons. Mom is on her 3rd marriage.”
22. Guy Who Always Likes My Girl's Posts Turns Out To Be Her Other Man
“I was 6 years into a relationship with my significant other when she went away for a few days with her friend on a road trip. So I was keeping up with her pics on social media and somehow noticed there was one particular guy liking almost all her statuses.
Now, she was in law school and had quite a few male classmates, but his name kept popping up so I gave him a click, just out of curiosity.
His profile was almost entirely private, but some posts were either public or I could see them because she commented.
One of the only posts available to me was a picture of his car – apparently, someone hit & run his car as it was parked overnight. Didn’t think much of it… but something was familiar. The angle of the picture was just perfect enough to recognize the tree outside my girl’s house.
I made a new social media account and private messaged him claiming that I had some information about the crime and I just wanted to confirm the location. Bingo.
The hardest part was waiting for her to come back to confront her. Had to wait a few days pretending everything was fine while my life was crumbling (I was going to propose in a couple of months).
When she got back, I showed her the picture. Cue to lies about having a bunch of people over that night because they went downtown and couldn’t drive. Cue to me pointing out on the exact date a text message from her saying she was studying that night. Also kind of weird to not tell me your friend’s car was hit outside your house?
She spent the next few weeks confessing and begging to take her back, saying it was her biggest mistake, etc., etc. Unbelievable how the person you love the most can stab you in the back. The weirdest thing is if I had not seen that picture at that exact angle, or if it was just private, or she didn’t go on that trip I would have never known. I may even be happily married, oblivious to what she is capable of. Who knows?”
21. Ex's Infidelity Ruined My Favorite Restaurant For Me
“I was at Buffalo Wild Wings with my significant other & for some reason had an urge to scroll through my DMs. One mysterious account had sent me a message saying my man had been two-timing me with their friend and gave me her name, number and said she was expecting a call. My heart sinks to my stomach. I excuse myself from the table, go outside and ring her up.
She immediately goes into detail about when she started seeing him, how they met, and more.
On top of that, she sent me videos and pictures she had taken of them together in the bedroom, if you know what I mean, complete with dates and time stamps so he couldn’t refute it. I calmly go back inside, tell him to get the food to go, and to meet me in the car so we can talk.
By the time he gets to the car he is clearly shaken up and overly defensive. I had a feeling he had been two-timing but never had any proof and he always gaslighted me by making me feel crazy when his stories didn’t add up. This was what I needed to finally let go. To this day he still tries to reach out but I will never get those images out of my head. I also haven’t been back to Buffalo Wild Wings since that night even though I love the food haha.”
20. Got Betrayed By The Same Girl Twice
“I was hanging out with some friends, and just randomly in conversation one of them says, ‘…like how Julie goes up to the club and makes out with guys, and Bob doesn’t give her a hard time for it.’ To which I could only respond with, ‘WHAT?’
So I got the details, called her, dumped her, and told her to get her crap out of my apartment.
A year or so later she catches wind that I’m starting to see someone, and comes around picking LOUD (my downstairs neighbor asked if he should call the cops next time) fights about how she never gave us a shot, and really wanted to this time. So I make the genius move of ditching the girl I was going out with (it hadn’t gotten too serious yet) and hook back up with my ex.
The very next morning I get a call from my buddy saying, ‘OMG I didn’t know you two were going out, she didn’t tell me till this morning, I’M SO SORRY’. So I call Jules and ask, ‘Why does Joe say you hooked up with him last night?’ and get nothing but excuses.
Fun tip! If the dude you two-timed with immediately calls and lets the guy you two-timed on know, he’ll probably also forward that guy your email that says, ‘Told you not to tell Bob, so you told Bob. What the heck is wrong with you? Screw you!’
Yeah…what is wrong with HIM…”
19. Marriage Got On The Rocks When Wife Joined The Army
“Wife joined the army and I was supportive of her decision. After Boot Camp and her Training, I bring her to her base in Nashville, Tennessee. The morning after I get there, she has already found a place to rent out, and her ‘friend’ helped. I did not have good feelings about this guy but I put it off. I was working a full-time job upstate NY at the time and the deal was that I would move down after the Holidays since I just accepted a promotion.
She agreed but slowly decided to fight against it.
Eventually, communication starts to dwindle and she starts saying the ‘not love you’ card, and she wanted a divorce. (Mind you this is 5 months into the marriage.) She wants me to drop everything and move to Tennessee but I find there is something strange behind her logic. She keeps bringing up in every argument that she wants a kid.
My argument is ‘How can I have a kid with someone who does not love me.’ Eventually, she agrees to come down and we finally attempt to fix things after she says she wanted a divorce twice.
Here it is, the day I am supposed to see her and she goes MIA. Her last text was she was stopping at a hotel to rest for the night.
24 hours pass. 48 hours. No phone call. Panic sets in. We contact her command. No answers they have. We begin a search party involving 3 different police departments. No results. We break into her email and find… the dirt. Orders of Pregnancy enhancers. Emails between her and a divorce attorney. Contacts with ‘her friend.’ It was at that moment I knew where she was.
Police told me that if I called the police on the guy’s house, they were not allowed to tell me if they found her, only if they didn’t.
They gave me the best info of my life. If we call, you were wrong… if she calls… I am sorry. Sure enough, we send the police over, and in 20 minutes after about 50 hours of searching… I got a call from a new number on my phone. I ended it right there on the phone and 3 days later I got the paperwork for divorce. I decided to not pursue destroying her military career. They gave me the choice. I know she will do it well on her own.
Been still single since that day. She is now married to the dude she two-timed me with. Still gets to me a lot, I will admit.”
18. Wife Had Been Doing Funny Business With Our Son's Soccer-Mate's Dad
“Four and half years ago, give or take, I had my world pulled out from under me. All the classic signs were there. I was part of a start-up my brother and I founded which was growing in leaps and bounds. Like all early-ish stage companies, it was fragile and you live in fear of it disintegrating before it gets big enough or before you can cash out on some of the value created.
I was not in a great place and eating and drinking my work stress away. Not in a substance abuse way, but in a forty pounds too heavy way. We had just gone through a tough time for her because she had chosen not to take a dream job because we had two sons, 8 and 10 at the time, and we both not could travel extensively and still care for them.
To be fair, my job paid much more. My wife of 14 years seemed to have overcome her anger about turning down the job. She was working happily at her current job and was working out furiously, buying new clothes, and generally in a good mood. She was even being supportive about my job encouraging me to travel as needed. This was unusual because it left her with all the kid duties.
One Tuesday night I came home from work and she reminded me she had book club and that our youngest son was sick. I asked where and said of course I could take care of the kids. She said this month’s book club was at a local restaurant and that sometimes it was at a restaurant because sometimes people do not want to host/clean up etc.
I shrugged and said ok. She told me not to wait up because they may stay out late. I thought this was a bit weird but was not paying a lot of attention and said yeah, yeah yeah. Truthfully I was thinking about having the pizza and beer I pick up on my way home from the office.
I made dinner and put my sons to bed about 8:30 and pulled out my frozen pizza to heat up and cracked a beer.
About halfway through the pizza and beer, I began to get a funny feeling. I thought about many things including her recent flurry of texting with her best friend and the giggling that accompanied those sessions. I thought about one look that she gave me when looking up from her phone during one of these text sessions that was just full of pity. It was so brief.
Did I imagine it? I thought about how she was dressed up when she went out. Make-up and pants with a top. Certainly not unusual except that her pants fit kind of funny and made her legs look a little weird. I decided I was being goofy but picked up my iPhone to check her location. This is not something I ever did to check up on her because it never remotely occurred to me that she would stray.
I would do it to see how close she might be to getting home when I was making dinner or how close she was to getting to an event, etc. The app said, ‘location services disabled’ or something similar. This was weird because I would have bet $100 that she had no idea how to do this or even why.
I began to get anxious at this point and went to get her computer.
I brought it down to a couch in our family room, opened it up, and pulled up her email. There was nothing there out of the ordinary except one exchange. She recently sent some of the action photos I took at our younger son’s soccer game to another boy’s father. Our boys were friends and my wife was friendly with the other boy’s mother. The response from the dad was a curt, ‘Thanks’.
I furrowed my brow for a moment and tabbed to her browser.
Social media was front and center and the message window was open. She was telling this boy’s dad, that she would be there in 30 minutes. I started sweating as I scrolled back and found a naughty message.
It was right then my panic attack began. I felt like someone was sitting on my chest and I could not breathe.
The couch started to spin and my world turned upside down. I scrolled back through what appeared to be an entire week of the social media chat log between the two of them. The week before, when I was out of town and she was allegedly having dinner with a friend, she was hooking up with this guy for the first time. He still had not seen her in stockings.
Was that what was going on under her pants that looked a bit off?
There was lots of discussion about how she was not remorseful and it was obvious that she was falling for this guy. She did not disparage me but said that we had grown apart. I collected myself and tried to call her. I got her voicemail. I logged into our bank account and moved most of it to my personal account.
There was still plenty left for her to pay bills and other things but if she was planning to clean the account out and shack up with this guy she would need the Court’s help. I then texted her and said that our younger son was sick and she should come home. I regret doing this for many reasons. Knowing that I was home, emotionally broken, while at that moment she was likely hooking up with someone else.
It was too much for me.
I began to go through her computer to search for other clues. She had her browser saving passwords for everything so it was not difficult. I found a deleted email exchange with the dad in question that was again odd only in its brevity. It is unusual to see emails devoid of any courtesies. I found a recent purchase at Victoria’s Secret.
It was certainly a secret to me because I never saw any of that at this stage of our marriage. Finally, I attached her computer to the large monitor at the desk in our kitchen and sat down to wait in the dark. About an hour and a half later she walked into the house quickly. She saw me in the dim light and said, ‘how is XXX.
Is he ok?’ I told her that he was fine and told her I knew about her evening. She wrinkled her brow and asked what I was talking about. I told her I know about her and ‘the soccer dad’. She said, ‘that was nothing we just met to have a glass of wine’. I scoffed and pointed to the large screen showing their chat details.
She inhaled hard and sat down harder, shoulders slumping. She again said it was nothing we just had a glass of wine and he had wanted to talk to her about a role in his organization. I told her, I have read the entire thing. Do you really want to stick to that story? She broke down and told me the truth. Yes, they had hooked up tonight, twice in fact.
The computer suddenly went from dim to bright as the messenger window lit up with a new text from the dad. ‘Is everything alright?’ I went to the keyboard and said, This is her husband and everything is not alright. She didn’t overtly react but I could see she was furious with me.
Lots of questions were asked. Some people want no details, some people want a LOT of details in these situations.
I was the latter. Yes, she had been with him for the first time the week prior. Yes, the intimacy was good. ‘Isn’t hooking up like pizza? Even when it is bad it is still good’ she reasoned.
She had been chatting with him furiously for a month to six weeks. They had been naughty texting. It seems they had been naughty texting while she was next to me in bed at night after I went to sleep.
Yes, her best friend and maid of honor at our wedding knew. Yes, she shared details with her.
At 3 am we were both exhausted and I went to bed and told her the guest bed was her option. After a night of zero sleep, I got the kids ready and drove them to school. I was so aware of them and their innocence the whole time.
I returned home and sat next to my wife on the couch and said our only hope is getting into counseling immediately and getting professional help for the sake of our children.
I lost 50 pounds as I worked out neurotically and lost my appetite for food and booze for quite a while. It was six months before I got a full night’s sleep. I was strung out and unable to work with any focus for several months.
If I had not been working with my brother I would have tanked my company. Thankfully, once he knew the full story, he picked up all the slack.
I stalked her email and chat messages in an unhealthy and inappropriate way. This is how I found my wife’s ‘closure’ message to him. Unfortunately, it was one of longing for what might have been instead of remorse for what was.
In the end, we found a fantastic therapist and saw him jointly and individually for almost a year. She had an emotional and physical affair and was pretty close to going over the edge. I read every book I could find on affairs, healing from affairs, power in relationships, the patriarchy, meditation, etc. It was almost a second job for a year.
We are still married today and I understand her actions, I think. I love her, know she is a great person and forgive as best I can. I heal a bit every day but know I will never be innocent again.”
17. Found Out About My Dad's Infidelity When I Was A Child
“To make a long story short: when smartphones came around, my dad would have the usual dad problems with new technology.
He was always really careless too, he’d be watching adult videos with his back to the door when he thought I wasn’t home. I’d walk in to tell him something or to watch TV (this often happened in the living room), pretend I didn’t see anything, and walk out.
I just figured, yeah it’s weird and uncomfortable but it’s just videos.
Anywho, my dad wanted me to install an app that did something and he couldn’t figure out by himself. I accidentally opened the text message app and found hundreds and hundreds of conversations with a woman. Risque pictures, videos, the works.
I didn’t know what to do, my 14-year-old mind thought ‘well this is nothing physical so maybe it’s not worth mentioning.’ I just wanted my mom’s feelings to not be hurt.
It took about a week of avoiding both of them until she asked me what was wrong, that’s when I told her.
She smiled sadly and told me not to worry about it, that she wasn’t dumb, she knew but he didn’t know she knew. She told me that despite everything, she silently trusted him to be safe.
I don’t like my dad very much since then. Since then, for unrelated reasons during a verbal heated discussion with him, I told him that I knew and insulted him heavily for it.
They’re still married and their relationship is much more best friends than husband and wife, it’s a very weird dynamic. I still struggle a lot with the idea of relationships and marriage.
Ninja edit: I have a half-sister that even he didn’t know about until I was 18, but that’s a story for another time.”
16. Wife Has Been Messing Around With Everyone I Know
“First, I’m an idiot.
My first wife left her husband for me (First red flag).
A year after we get married we buy a ranch. The ranch needs a lot of work. So weekends are spent fixing it up with friends. This goes on for like 3 months.
Three years after we marry I get orders (military for a new job) for an overseas location and can’t bring my wife.
I will be gone for a year. After the year the military sends me to a different state. So, we decide to sell our ranch. After we sell the ranch she moves in with our best friends (husband and wife with 3 kids).
During one of our weekly phone calls, she confesses she and the wife are sleeping together. No big deal. The wife was hot and it kinda turned me on.
(Second red flag).
I return home after the year and she admits to me that she was also sleeping with the husband (my ex-best friend). She says she needed to come clean before we moved because she couldn’t move knowing I would probably find out and she didn’t want to move back home alone. I ask her if this was the only time she has two-timed me.
Nope. Remember the ranch and those weekends spent fixing it up with friends? Yup, she was seeing another ex-friend of mine while I was outside fixing up our property. She claimed I wasn’t showing her enough ‘love’.
After long talks, we decide to get therapy and work things out. We move and get said such therapy. Things are looking great. I get orders again to an overseas location, she can’t accompany me this year.
She moves back home while I’m overseas to be close to her family. She befriends another husband and wife (third red flag).
Did I ever say I was an idiot? She was a master manipulator and I was on her web.
I return from overseas. I find a large number of mixed CDs (music storage). She claims she made them. But, the fancy CD labels tell me otherwise.
I find no blank CDs or CD labels in our home. She says the new friends helped her. (Fourth red flag). She swears there is nothing going on. I believe her.
Fast forward a couple more years. My wife is away at a rehab clinic for massive addiction. When she completes her 28-day ‘vacation,’ she insists on having a couple of her friends move in with us.
I refuse. By this time I am on to her game. Her friends don’t move in, but she goes to weekly meetings with her rehab friends. These meetings are hours away from our house.
I leave for a business trip. I return early to an ex-friend of mine’s car in our driveway. Yup, you guessed it. I walk in on them. They were playing some sort of hide and seek game.
I move out. During a trip to pick my things up, I read her journal. Yup, she was having relations with just about everyone I know.
Did I admit I was an idiot?
Her next guy was a substance cook. He tried to harm me once because I wouldn’t give her more money.
Last I heard she was homeless and living at the river bottoms. She blames her actions on me.”
15. Wife Casually Admitted She Was With Another Man Last Night
“My ex-wife kept randomly bringing chocolates after work. I wasn’t sure where she was getting them, I asked her once and she just said a friend gave them to her. I have no idea why it didn’t hit me then, but then she kept getting texts and it got me kinda suspicious but I was still naive. One night she had to do a night shift, and she wasn’t really answering my texts..
no big deal, she’s probably just working..an hour after her shift was over I started panicking because I hadn’t received one single text from her. If you could see my face….. I called her work, friends, family nobody knew where she was and it started becoming a nightmare, the city I live in isn’t exactly great and is in the top ten worst crime-ridden cities in California.
I actually didn’t know what to do. Too early to call the police, and I had exhausted all options.
I stayed up all night texting, pacing, and worrying. When the morning came I got our daughter up for school and she asked where mom was I didn’t know what to tell her. Finally, after more waiting, she shows up and walks into the room. I had SO many questions and was really upset she scared me and our daughter..then after a silent moment I had a sudden realization…the chocolates…
the texts… was she…? No…couldn’t be..that’s not her at all. I looked at her and asked where she was and she tells me she went over to one of her employees’ houses to hang at their house and said she had a few beers (wait…since when does she drink beer?) I asked all the usual questions, who was it? Where did he come from? Etc, Did you sleep with him? A sullen look comes over her face as she just says yeah.
I can’t say my blood didn’t boil but I kept my cool…I slowly said it was over and to get the heck out of my house, but she was already planning on leaving, she ended up moving in with the dude almost right after she stayed with her mom.
My daughter was crushed… why did mommy leave us? A few times I broke down, I’d go to my room and close the door, I guess the door didn’t close all the way and my daughter came in and saw me.
She looks up at me with her huge eyes and says ‘don’t worry dad…me and you will be okay.’ Man, that broke me even more. It was so weird being in a bedroom that was full of her stuff, just thinking what the heck happened? My daughter and I are great now and have a great family. I remarried and we have it made. My ex just broke up with the dude recently and lives with her mom.
It’s not really a horror story where I walked in on them or whatever but it was a horrible nightmare to me.”
14. Sailor's Wife Left Her Husband With Nothing
“I got a ton of these from my time in the Navy. The most methodical was this couple, married for something like 9 years. They’re a good couple, we left on deployment and while gone for 6 months everything seemed like a regular deployment. She wrote him, sent him family grams, packages and they talked at every port and I would ask how she and the kid (5yr) was doing.
Everything was fine, even had plans to go to Disney World on return.
So upon returning from deployment she wasn’t on the pier like all the other wives, friends, and families. He spent like two hours down below trying to get a hold of her. He ended up getting a ride home which was in Navy Housing, his key still worked but the house was no longer his.
He scared the life out of a little kid playing in the living room and then proceeded to scare the wife of some unknown sailor when she ran to the kid.
Apparently, she had been gone for almost 5 months. She had taken absolutely everything and moved halfway across the country to Texas with some other sailor who got out of the Navy. The married couple was from Virginia (I think). He was expecting a big, exciting return and all he got was two weeks of vacation sitting around in an empty barracks room while trying to locate his wife and kid. No car, money, or clothes except what he had on deployment. A week before our return she canceled everything; debit card, credit card, phone, etc.”
13. It All Started After The New Year
“Oh boy! I was 16 when I met her. We were together for 2 years, she was the first girl I went out with for over a month or so. My first love.
We went to a house party on New Year’s together and got separated after the official party cooled down and everybody went their own way. I left with my friends. She sent me a text that she’s partied out and is heading home to sleep – unfortunately, the friends I went with do stupid stuff and decided that it’s a good idea to head back to the house and crash there.
Found her in bed with a guy I didn’t know. We broke up the following day and I haven’t spoken to her since. – Not the best way to process it, I suppose.
After this incident, it took me a few years to get back into something serious. We went out for a year and she moved in together with me in my small 1 room apartment.
We lived there for a year.
I took a mortgage and bought a 2 room condo. She was still a student and we pretty much lived on my income, she stayed at home a lot due to not having too many classes left. Many of my friends said that she was just taking advantage of me since I was the one who brought in the money and food for a living.
I never gave her cash or anything, but she didn’t really pay her share either, just bought some random groceries sometimes.
Anyway, I ended up pulling long days at work, 12 – 16hr shifts were not super uncommon and our interactions started to fade out. She started spending more and more time with her face glued to the phone screen. She also did not enjoy my stupid jokes anymore, and everything I did seemed to annoy her to some degree…
Our intimate life also died almost completely. At this point I didn’t even ask if she wanted to come with me if I went out with friends – All of them seemed to hate her guts. (Red flags anyone? I still believed this could be fixed!)
One day her phone lit up on the living room table while she was pooping; It was her classmate telling her that ‘I’m really excited to meet you again soon.’
I’m not proud of this part, but the text really caught my attention – So I opened the phone and read a part of their conversation.
They had been ‘going out’ for a few months now. I was hurt, unbelievably hurt, I felt lightheaded and nauseated at the same time. Like my whole world just came tumbling down.
I started reading one of the texts out loud enough for her to hear it – it was a rather graphic one describing what he wanted her to do to him and she seemed to play along on her reply.
It wasn’t the only interaction of this kind.
She came rushing out of the bathroom real quick; grabbed the phone and was saying that I invaded her privacy. I agree, I did do that and I’m not proud of it.
She told me that it was only messages and nothing had happened. I didn’t believe her. I told her to pack up whatever she wants and drove her to her mom’s.
It was a silent car ride, we both knew it was over. She wept, I stood stone-faced and as cold as I could.
I told her I needed time for myself and am going to my home. I drank my whisky, told my best friend what had happened, and asked him if he could come over as I didn’t want to be alone. He came with more stuff to drink.
We watched Die Hard 1 – 3 and drank some more. I vented he listened. On the next day I called in sick, my friend was unemployed at the time. We went to the grocery store and got empty banana boxes. We packed all of her belongings in said boxes.
After a few days I called her, we talked. She still claimed nothing had happened but agreed that our relationship was over.
I told her her stuff is packed up and she can come to pick them up when I’m at work and leave the key. She did.
This is the last I talked to her.
A few months later she was pregnant with the other guy and moved in with him.
A year later she was a single mom.
She reached out to me last year via social media. Sent me a message telling me she’s sorry and that she hooked up with the child’s father before breaking up with me. I haven’t replied and haven’t really given any thought to any of it before.
My current partner of 6 years just sent a message that she forgot my dog alone outside for half an hour and that the dog now hates her.
I told her to give the dog a pig’s ear.”
12. Partner's Affair Got The Cops Involved In The End
“I never was in a relationship I didn’t have to end because of my partner two-timing me.
I had hoped that streak of bad luck would end when I met my ex back in December 2015. We both were young and had the same taste in games, art, and stuff. I had moved to a new city in 2016, when she contacted me in July 2016. She told me how she couldn’t find a job in eastern Germany and how angry her family had become because of that.
Because of the stress this caused her, she asked me if she could visit me. I am not smart, but I sure ain’t stupid. Right from the start I know we would end up hooking up with each other. That’s what we did for 2 weeks. During that time she looked for jobs in my city but hadn’t any luck. She was offered an apprenticeship in 2018, which she took.
She begged me to let her stay with me and that she would pay me back, once she would earn money.
I know, that was stupid, but I did agree. At the time of January 2017, I started to notice that her behavior around me changed. She hid her phone and laptop and we hooked up less. She also got incredibly envious whenever I talked with a female colleague.
She mentioned threatening things to win my sympathy but I was done with her.
A day after the confrontation she admitted that she had two-timed me with one of her friends she had visited in February. I snapped. I told her to leave and refused to help her out financially anymore. She told me that her father would come and kill me, but I didn’t believe it.
Who would drive 4h just to confront someone? Boi was I wrong. He did drive all the way to my town, while I was at a friend’s. He nearly killed me. I don’t know how I survived but someone called the cops. They found him and his friend (they tried to flee over a highway).
After my recovery, my friends and I burned her stuff, the police had forbidden her and her family to come closer to me than 50m. The trial was this March, her father and his friend got 5 years. I am still scared to walk out alone at night.
I have learned my lesson tho. I will never ever let anyone come closer to me. This girl messed me up for good.”
11. Drank With Friends At 10 AM After Eating Breakfast With My Girl And Her Other Man
“This was my Sophomore year in college and I was going out with this girl for about 1 year. On a nice, brisk, fall Saturday morning, I walked into the uphill dining hall that was closest to my dorm for a super early breakfast (7 AM). At that time, I was normally hungover in bed on a Saturday, so this was just pure happenstance. My plan was to eat and head to the gym for a quick lift before the usual day of partying and college football/shenanigans.
Any-who, I get to the dining hall and there is practically no one there. My half-asleep self is groggy and my brain isn’t quite functioning yet, so I mosey on over to grab my food. After I got my tray, I notice that my girl’s (at the time) best friend and roommate (we will call her lax chick) is also in the dining hall. This makes sense because they lived literally above the hall.
So, as any good person would, I go up and talk to lax chick. Over the course of our conversation, I notice that she is visibly ‘off’. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but something just was different. Before I leave our convo to grab a drink and then my food, I see my girl walking around with a day student who didn’t live on campus.
This was super weird because it was 7 AM. My brain still hadn’t had my coffee and wasn’t working yet, so the red alarm bells weren’t going off just yet.
My significant other eventually comes up to me with her ‘guy friend’ and asks me to join them for breakfast. Being the hungry idiot I was, I think, oh sure, I would love to eat with my girl.
Little did I know that this would be ‘the breakfast from the underworld.’ My girl and her ‘guy friend’ were flirting heavily the whole time right in front of my face. I was FUMING but didn’t want to create a scene in public. Suffice it to say, this whole ordeal was enough to wake my brain up. And once I caught on to what had happened the night before and why they were eating breakfast with this day student ‘guy friend’, i.e that the dude slept over their small two-bed dorm room the night before, I gave what must have been a deathly look to lax chick across the table.
Lax chick mouths to me ‘I am soooo sorry’. It was at that point that everything REALLY clicked and I figured it out.
I got up and left, making up the story that I had to meet someone at the gym. Proceeded to throw out my food, and got in a very intense lift at the gym. Shortly after this began drinking my face off with my best friends, like at 10 AM.”
10. Wife Had An Affair In A School I Helped Her Get A Job At
“I didn’t accidentally catch her, but months after the divorce it all sort of clicked. She started a new job that I helped her get, an upgrade from a private daycare to a school and a union job. About 4 months into her job she suddenly and without an explanation said she wants to stop trying to have another child (we’ve been trying for 3 years).
A month later, two weeks into the new school year we’re constantly fighting over small things, she calls me out on it and says I’m being abusive (mentally and verbally) and she doesn’t love me anymore and asks that I move out. I believe it because I have issues with myself, move out and we proceed with mediation to a peaceful divorce.
She takes half of everything, I become depressed and fall into a panic and start seeking help and believe every misdiagnosis thrown at me from different mental doctors and tell her how messed up I am.
She uses that against me to get an annulment from the church, the Catholic Church strongly believes that mental illness is equal to evil, so now I’m evil and they believe everything she says and nothing I say.
At this point, I’ve been properly diagnosed with depression and being treated by my doctor. I’ve been piecing things together and realized that all the times she asked if I was talking to or looking at other women were because that’s what she was doing, if I ever two-timed her I was to tell her immediately and always being suspicious of me ever since she started that new job I helped her get.
She didn’t want to have another child because she was planning to leave me for a coworker (I wouldn’t be too surprised to learn she was taking birth control too), 2 weeks after I moved out and while going through mediation she called me up with second thoughts and I got out of her that she was sleeping with a coworker already and that he’s shown her love I never did.
I was too messed up on treatment substances for mental illness I didn’t have so I forgot, but eventually remembered and from that moment on just started focusing my efforts on being better for our daughter who was six at the time. Two years later and they’re engaged to be married, and when I have my daughter we talk about stuff when we go for hikes and she tells me how her mother is never around, how the mother lies to her, and how her grandparents are raising her right now.
I have a feeling that when our daughter hits puberty, stuff might hit the fan for my ex, I can see and hear resentment growing in my daughter now.
What I learned from all this is that if a significant other is constantly asking you if you’re looking at or talking to other women or thinking of other women or men (it goes both ways), it’s not because they’re insecure, it’s because they’re guilty of it themselves.
Insecurities manifest in self hate not suspicion. Hope that helps someone reading this.
She now maintains that before this all happened, or just as it began, she heard God speak to her in church and he told her to do this and that she’ll be happier for it, probably a result of him grooming her to leave, but every time is see her now she looks like a miserable person.”
9. Caught My Husband's Lie Using Google Maps
“We shared a Google account. He was starting to flirt with a new coworker, calling each other at night, text messaging, taking her food to work, etc. One night he tells me he is going to Uber for a bit. I didn’t believe him but I said ok. Well I looked through Google maps and it shows you where you have been and he was driving to her side of town.
He didn’t move the whole night. He came home in the morning and took a shower. I looked through his phone and she was texting him how amazing hooking up was and how he ‘hoped’ he didn’t hurt her too much. Denied the whole thing. He left me with two small kiddos. I filed for divorced that fall. And two years after that, I fell in love and was really serious with a new guy.
Talking about marriage and forming a family. Well, the dude wasn’t very smart. I had a key to his apartment and would come by after work and wait for him. I felt something wasn’t right, and sure enough, I found a pair of undergarments by his bed (weren’t mine). I froze and couldn’t believe this was happening all over again. He denied it at first but came clean. Don’t remember much from that night. I don’t know if I will ever love again. It sucks when you get betrayed by the two people you truly loved.”
8. Man Who Lived 5 Minutes Away From Me Blamed Distance For Breaking Up With Me
“My partner of 2 years who was an absolute trainwreck had been ‘taking breaks’ to sort himself out. I was young and just waited until he would mess up. One month before my birthday he lost it on me and broke my phone so I couldn’t call someone for a ride at 2 am. Slept under an overpass, bandaged me up at home once I knew no one was there, and acted like I fell.
He apologizes, cries about it, promises to make it up to me for my birthday. My dad plans a surprise trip to Six Flags, and my significant other is supposed to come. Never answers his phone, never calls me, nothing. So we leave and have a great day at Six Flags. That afternoon around 3 PM, my man’s grandparents invite me over for dinner, I show up at 7.
My partner isn’t there, no one has heard from him. He finally calls me to tell me not to come to dinner because he is having family issues, I play it off acting like I’m not already there, and tell him I’ll see him in the morning.
The next day my friend Elinore from high school calls me, tells me she went to her friend Ember’s (who went out with my ex when she was a freshman years before) house and caught him having relations with her.
Ember doesn’t know me, has no idea he is two-timing me with her. Elinore tells me she confronts him, he denies it despite her literally seeing them. I text him to ask what time he is coming over, he responds that he needs to break up with me because he can’t handle the distance. He lived a 5-minute walk from me. I told him I know what happened, he tries to lie and say it was an accident and he fell into her, I dump him and move on and later marry a good friend and have a happy life.”
7. Wife Found Out Her Husband Slept With Her Sister By Listening On The Radio
“Not me, a guy called in on a radio show a few years back around Thanksgiving.
The dude was deployed for training in the military. Was stationed in Tennessee and was flying back. The whole time his wife was two-timing him, he knew because she was emailing her side piece and he was logged into her email account and had read all their messages back and forth.
He landed and rented a car, drove to his house but didn’t park at HIS house, parked down the street, and waited. His wife and her sidepiece were home so he waited for them to leave. After they left he walked down and let himself in, goes upstairs to his mancave, and starts drinking.
A couple of hours go by and his wife is back with a side piece, they start watching TV and after a while, they made their way to the bedroom.
Husband gives them a couple of minutes to get busy. He walks down the hall, tells the radio DJ at this point ‘I wish I could tell you that I calmly opened the door and talked to them both. Instead, I almost kicked the door off the hinges.’
Husband- ‘What are you doing with my wife?!’ Side Piece- ‘What are you doing in my house?!’ H- ‘This is my house, and that’s my wife’ S- turns to the wife, ‘You’re married?!!’
Sidepiece didn’t know she was married.
The husband calmly told him to get dressed and get out and that he wasn’t mad at him.
Husband leaves, on his way out he canceled all her credit cards, canceled her school tuition through the military G.I Bill, and sold her car I think, because it was all in his name.
Fast forward to December, he and his bros are out at a bar. A girl walks up to him and starts talking, his wife’s younger sister.
She asks him about the whole ordeal because she only had 1 side of the story. He tells her, while they are both buying drinks for each other. The night ends and they go back to one of their places and get it on.
The best part is, his wife listened to that radio station, and that is how she found out that her husband got with her sister after she was unfaithful.”
6. Friends Try To Distract Me As My Other Friend Stabs Me In The Back
“My ex lived with a few of my other good friends in a big house, I had plans to come over and hang out with one of my friends and I was gonna smoke with her, then probably end up crashing with my significant other for the night. Well on my way over I get a text from my friend saying something along the lines of ‘Nvm coming over, I think I’m just gonna crash’ or some other lame last-minute excuse.
Well, I still end up heading over because even if she’s gonna sleep, I’m sure one of the other 3 roommates is down to kick it and if all else fails I can just kick back with my girl.
Well, I end up getting there and my friend is wide awake smoking stuff in the living room… weird. She’s acting super weird and insists I don’t bother my partner right now, which is even weirder but I obey her request and continue to hang and talk smack.
After a little while, I say I’m gonna go upstairs for a bit and see what my girl is up to, before they could stop me I’m already heading up the stairs with two of them following me, I hear some odd sounds coming from the other side of the door, so I swing it open and there is one of my friends with my girl.
Immediately the other friend who followed held me back and good thing he did because I was absolutely ready to start swinging. My significant other was extremely surprised and so was the home wrecker. The worst part is that wouldn’t be the last time that happened to me with her. It took me a while to learn my lesson with her and now I know that trust needs to be earned, not given.
Either way, I think I came out on top, Izzy my ex put on some weight as she got older and definitely is not looking the best anymore, I also was able to get a little revenge.”
5. Slept On A Park Bench After Catching My Ex
“I was 18 and she was 17, we’d had a daughter together 6 months prior.
I’m working 12-16 hour days in a minimum wage job so she can stay at home, look after our daughter and still attend college (we were living with her mother at the time, and I was saving for a deposit on a flat for us, and a ring.)
I have a rare day off, and she’d been invited to a party at a friend’s house.
Not one I particularly cared for as he’d openly stated he fancied her previously but was in a steady relationship at this point, so I wasn’t too bothered.
I realized 5 minutes after she left she’d left her phone. I ask her mum to keep an eye on my daughter, and head out after her, phone in hand.
Just as I reach the end of the street, her phone goes off.
I look down and it’s her ‘friend’ telling her his partner had just left for work, and to hurry up as he was eagerly waiting.
I caught up to her feeling numb, handed the phone over, and told her I was leaving. Went back to her mother’s, packed my stuff, and left. Spent the night on a park bench, crying my eyes out.
She told me the next day it’d had been happening for two months.
I emptied my bank account and gave her all my funds, the diamond earrings, and the necklace I’d bought her for valentine’s that week, and called my dad to come pick me up. Drove over to her friend’s house on my way out of town, told his girl what had happened, and messed him up.
Joined the navy 6 months later.
For those curious, I didn’t contest for custody as she had a more stable living environment, and despite being a horrible person for two-timing, is a wonderful mother. My daughter is now 12 and an amazing person.”
4. Ex Tries To Cover Her Lies With Cookie Delivery Story
“Phone died. Ex had an old phone in a drawer just in case such a thing happened. I texted her and got her permission to use it until I could get a replacement. Move SIM card, power phone on, no big deal, right? Except in fumbling through the old menus, I open her text inbox and the first text says ‘It felt good to me too’ and is from a married friend of mine known for his lack of fidelity.
Now listen… I am 100% against phone snooping. I have given and followed advice many times that if you feel like you need to snoop on your significant other’s phone, it’s already over and you should just run. But seeing a text like that… I felt like it gave me a pretty good reason to read the rest of them.
Sure enough, I gathered enough that there was at least one late-night rendezvous while he was at work (I won’t say what kind of work he was doing, but suffice to say he was in a profession where there is a public expectation of some attention to duty…).
I also found texts to at least 5 but sometimes as many as 10 guys in the same night inviting them over to MY house (she had moved in after getting kicked out of her old place) with the line, ‘Don’t worry, he works 24-hour shifts two hours away – you can even sleep in.’ Needless to say, I went to her work, got my key back then and there, and said we could discuss it later.
I had unfortunately been around the block enough times to know to take pictures of the texts before I gave the phone back.
The funny part is, she initially claimed that the only purpose for the meeting was to bring him some homemade cookies. I asked her what ‘It felt good to me too’ meant and she gave me some line about how their families had been close long ago and she meant it felt good ‘to catch up with an old friend.’ Unfortunately for her I also read the other texts so she really didn’t have an answer when I asked what ‘I like it both ways’ meant in reference to a cookie delivery…..
Confronted him, too. He lied even after she admitted it. Lost a girl and what I thought was a bro… I’m gonna say I dodged two bullets.”
3. Partner Was With Another Man And Realized How Much She Loves Me
“My partner and I live together and have been going out for a year (never fallen for a girl this fast, let alone see someone for this long) and recently I saw a guy’s name popping up on her every time I used her phone/computer (which was very little). It kept happening so I assumed they must be talking quite frequently if that was the case.
A few days later she was showing me a message and I noticed that any conversation thread with this guy was deleted. I realized like a month earlier she mentioned a friend (who lives in Florida, we live in the midwest) who always had a crush on her (apparently a self-proclaimed millionaire? Couldn’t find anything to support this) and it hit me that this was the same dude.
That night I had a gut feeling and waited for her to fall asleep and I looked at her phone. Sure enough, he had sent a picture message to her on social media (everything prior was deleted) and I opened it and it was him shirtless saying I miss you baby. Needless to say, my blood started to boil, I was angry but needed more details so I could confront her with everything and I attempted to talk to him as her for the next couple of minutes (honestly hated doing this but followed my gut) and it turns out this guy was trying to fly to our town to visit her over the weekend.
She woke up a bit after and realized I had her phone and I went off on her asking how she could do this to me….her response was that she didn’t know why and that she hasn’t been herself this past month, apparently she felt emotionally deprived (she wasn’t working, sat at home all day, didn’t know what she wanted to do with her life and had slipped into a depressed state) and thought something new (this dude) would make her realize how much she loved me.
After I had an emotional breakdown, she swore to me she would never talk to this guy again, they never actually had plans to meet (apparently that was all him?), and that she only wanted me and that her emotional affair was over. After breaking down to her that night and going over all our options (for we LIVE together), I decided to give her another chance.
I told her she should stay at her parents’ place (20 min away) for the week and we should align our priorities and have a week for ourselves and resume at the end of the week. This is where it gets really hairy.
She was supposed to meet her dad (they aren’t on the best terms) on Tuesday that week and couldn’t make it (was borrowing my crummy car and it died), so they rescheduled for Wednesday and her dad apparently ditched plans to go bowling? (she stood him up), then on THURSDAY, she was supposed to meet me at friends for documentary club and she said she was meeting her dad for dinner.
Earlier that night, I noticed she had bought a nice new dress and I asked her if she was going to wear that to meet her dad, she replied: ‘no way I never dress up to meet my dad’. Before leaving for doc club I realized she was kind of dressed up, despite having plans to meet her dad, and I had a sick feeling in my stomach on the way to my friend’s place.
I checked the find my friends app and realized she had taken off her location which was odd, I mentioned it to her and she just said, ‘no that’s weird why should I have to keep that on’ (lots of illegal activity going on rn in the midwest FYI). I replied that it was a safety thing and after last week’s events it was the least she could do to regain my trust.
She agreed to turn it on but never actually did and went silent for a couple of hours.
Despite having a feeling something was going on, I assumed she was at dinner and not on her phone and I called her a few hours later. She sent me to voicemail and said she was still eating with dad (4 hours later) and that was my last straw for I knew something was up.
I got home from doc club and found an old Chromebook of hers and found some passwords in a logged-in email account she had open, I was able to get into her social media and looked at the story of the guy mentioned earlier and saw he was at the airport hours earlier flying to meet ‘b’, this is when my heart sunk…..I realized my worst nightmares had come true and this guy was flying from FLORIDA to meet her.
I called her nonstop for a good hour and was hung up on multiple times before being blocked. It was late at this point and I had no one else to go to or that could help with this situation so I went to bed anxious and my heart was beating out of my chest. That following morning I got up for work and gave her mom a call asking if she had come home (she was still staying at her place on our ‘break’) because I was worried about her safety since she was driving my crummy car still.
Her mother replied, ‘honey, so and so said she was staying with you last night’ and at that moment I knew all the conclusions I’d come to from the night before were true. I told her mom, ‘I think so and so is two-timing me’ and she was in shock because she thought her daughter had finally grown up and had a head-on her shoulders since we started going out.
Her mom couldn’t get through to her as well but finally, an hour or two later my partner called me and said ‘I passed out at my friend’s place and was too intoxicated to drive home.’ I obviously knew this wasn’t the case and asked why this guy (who she was ‘DONE’ talking to) was in town.
She denied knowing where she was and I literally asked the same question for the next 5 minutes until she finally admitted he was in town and she stayed the night with him last night.
My world was turned upside down when those words came out of her mouth, and a few hours later we met in person and I broke up with her on the spot and told her she needs to move out and we’re breaking the lease (too expensive to afford on our own). To make things even worse she realized what she had done and has been professing her love for me nonstop the past week sending me texts, emails, and pictures of us from the past year of our lives, and said she won’t ever give up on me and wants nothing more than for us to work out.
Even though this was last week and it’s still fresh, I’m still in shock that this is how it ended. I’ve never been more in love with a woman and I was convinced she was the one. She even told her mom (in front of me) a few weeks prior, that she was going to marry me one day and that I’m going to be a part of her family (her mom GAVE me her blessing on the spot and said she would love that, even though I was planning on getting married for a while at least) which has made things even worse upon reflection.
This has gone from the happiest year of my life to the saddest in a matter of a week and I’m still at a loss for words for I was willing to do anything for this girl. I know things will get better with time but it’s really hard to visualize that right now and I’m not really sure what the future has in store for me..”
2. Wife Voluntarily Comes Clean When We Were Growing Apart
“My ex-wife and I grew distant. We both had new jobs. My new job had me working nights. When I worked nights she was on the phone. I looked up the call log found out it wasn’t one of her friends but was a guy she knew from college who had feelings for her. She acted indignant that I looked and said I should have asked and that she just enjoyed talking to him and him telling her how he felt.
She swore it wasn’t a relationship.
Months later I stayed home with our, then, two-year-old son. She went out with a female friend. I was called into work so I called her and she left her friend. When I talked my way out of work I told her she could stay out. She came back home that night and didn’t say anything.
Our relationship went back and forth.
At times I felt it was getting better. I told her how badly I wanted to be with her and to make it work. She listened and then I went to work that night. While I’m eating on break she texted asking if I meant what I said. I did. It was then that she revealed that when she went back out that night months earlier her friend went home.
So she called the guy and asked him to come out. He came and they hooked up in his car. She said she had to tell me that to come clean and see if I really wanted to stay with her.
I was crushed. I wanted to vomit. It just didn’t make sense. I also felt a lot of guilt. We weren’t together for too much longer after that, and I really wish I didn’t hold on for as long as I did. If I was honest I would’ve seen it was time to end it long before that night ever happened.”
1. Girl Told Her Workmates We're Broken Up So She Could Be With Two Other Men
“Both went to uni pretty close, like 25 miles apart and I drive so no biggie. Came up every weekend. One night she goes out and (I quote) saw her ex and ‘had to sort things out.’ Apparently, they only slept in the same bed. Now I’m an optimist so I figure, yeah okay, I’ll move past it. Cue 4 months later. Drive up to surprise her, she said she was at work but I figure hey I’ll chill at her work till she finishes then she won’t have to walk home.
Cue me turning up, she wasn’t at work. Asked her friend who was working and her response hit me hard, ‘Wait…. you’re still together?’ She explained to me that my now ex told everyone we had broken up. I got back to find my now ex with 2 guys.
Not gonna lie I felt like the most cold-hearted person because as she screamed, cried, and begged to at least talk, the only words I muttered was ‘Yeah, this is done’ and walked away, all while she slipped up and said it was only twice her ex had begged her, I was in shock so I walked away frozen.
I have a few more stories because as of current the only girl to not betray me is my amazing girl, but this is the most jaw-dropping dramatic one. Moral of the story. Your heart lies to you, your gut tells you the truth.”
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