People Ask Us To Help Them Deal With Their "Am I The Jerk?" Situations

"My friend (Leon) is extremely big-headed, and his technique on getting women: Embarrass your friends = Girls will find you cool.

I guess the girl he was talking to found that crap corny.

He was talking to this girl named Rachel for a week and a half, and the way he’d talk about her to me and the guys was demeaning. He’d call her all sorts of derogatory names.

Here’s the funny part, he was a sweetheart over text.

One of the photos he used in his bio was a picture of himself standing next to me. Rachel never brought me up in the conversation, until 2 days before their meet-up, and she had a friend called Laura that found me handsome.

So she suggested we come with them, Leon told me and I agreed to go.

Laura is such a beautiful person, she was hilarious and we just had banter like no other. Truly a vibe. We tried to have separate conversations but Rachel was cringing when Leon would talk about me in such a disrespectful manner to her.

I would hear him but ignore it.

We all just started talking together and every 5 minutes he’d insert the lamest joke ever and it was always at my expense, trying to make me look bad. I don’t take myself too seriously so I spun my embarrassment into jokes that the ladies would laugh at.

Leon saw he couldn’t make me look stupid so he got up and left.

Rachel didn’t really care. I chilled with them for about an hour and we 3 went to a cool spot nearby that had a nice view and just sat on the grass talking.

I got Laura’s number and socials and Rachel told me to tell Leon not to contact her again. I called one of my other buddies and told him about the night, and he told me I was a little bit of a jerk because I showed Leon up. Gosh. Is that what I did? All I did was not care and not let him bring me down. AITJ?"

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. Leon is the ONLY jerk in this story. He was trying to make you look bad while trying to make himself look good but all he did was make himself look like a jerk.

You didn't do anything wrong. Which is why the girls continued the night with you. You were being yourself & they liked you. Leon should try doing the same thing." NOTTHATKAREN1

Another User Comments:

"NTJ, this guy was not your friend. He keeps people around whom he can pick on, put down, and use whatever it is to rip you apart to make himself look and feel better about himself.

This guy has low self-esteem and builds himself up by shredding those around him. The woman he went out with with saw Leon for who he really was, ugly on the inside. You also didn't do anything wrong. You didn't cause a scene, you simply outwitted a nitwit. You did not allow his digs to ruin the vibe. The fact he could not handle someone standing up for themselves in a non-confrontational way is his own problem. Good luck with the girl. Leon's girl was smart." emptynest_nana