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DeniseSB

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AITJ For Refusing To Pay For Dinner?

1 month ago

It would have been smarter to separate the topic of money from his inconsiderate behavior that night. I would have ordered a food delivery with just enough food for me LONG before he showed up and let him inow I was no longer interested in spending the evening with him without a huge apology and a justifiable reason for not letting me know the reason he hadn’t shown up.

AITJ For Not Wanting To Spend Christmas With My In-Laws?

2 months ago

You're not the jerk. Your MIL? Let me just say that she could sure use some empathy lessons.

AITJ For Starting Our Wedding Ceremony On Time?

2 months ago

There are many legitimate reasons a person can be late because of unforeseen circumstances (e.g., a horrendous traffic jam, sudden illness, a loved one's emergency) as a singular event. Regularly showing up late to important events is proof of either a neurological difference that prevents someone from tracking time accurately OR an immaturity that demands other people given them special consideration just to prove their specialness. The former figure out coping mechanisms (e.g., setting alarms as reminders for each step of preparation or asking a friend/family member to keep them on track) and are apologetic when their coping mechanisms are enough. Then there are narcissists like your parents who endlessly demand to be indulged. I've no doubt that they think you've behaved badly because you've decided you care more about insisting on reasonable boundaries and a minimal amount of respect from your parents instead of continuing to enable their bad behavior. Good for you! NTJ

AITJ For Pointing Out That Our Mom Doesn't Have Custody Of Us?

2 months ago

You aunt is a real jerk for criticizing your sister for having raised you and your brother to be helpful. I think what you said is ENTIRELY appropriate. OTOH, if you want to protect your sis from your aunt's jerkishness in the future, you can avoid her implied defense of your mother and just say something that puts the focus on your own correct behavior. For example: "I'm not a little kid. I want to help get things ready for our family dinner." or "Would you rather take care of this chore? I'm sorry for getting in your way. I'll go do that chore instead."

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