Schmousie
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None of us is guaranteed time. Sometimes folks with cancer diagnoses actually make it a few years. What if you focus on visiting her and one of your parents passes of a sudden aneurysm? How badly will you feel then? Take care of yourself and go see your parents. NTJ.
AITJ For Discarding My Dog's Waste?
1 year ago
YTJ. It’s called theft of services. Whether it’s a bag of dog poo, or a couple bags of your household trash, it’s her bin, which she pays for, to dispose of her own trash. If everyone who walked past put something in, she probably wouldn’t be able to put all her trash in it for disposal. The fact she was that irritated by it could indicate that has been a problem for her in the past. Or maybe she’s just angry. Either way, her bin, not yours. I had a similar problem at an apartment complex I managed, people would drive up and dump bags of their household trash. It happened enough, my tenants ultimately had nowhere to put their own garbage. Eventually, I had to put up security cameras, begin to legally go after the people who were dumping there without permission, and finally, lock the bins, which was a massive hassle for everyone, tenants, management, and garbage disposal company. Yes, one small bag of poo may not fill a garbage can, but if everyone in the neighborhood dropped one in every day, it probably would. If you want to not carry you dog’s poo all the way home, put in the work to develop relationships with people on your route and ask permission to do that. I don’t have a dog, but there are a couple people with dogs who walk our neighborhood whom I have granted permission to use our trash can, whether it’s at the curb or not, so they don’t have to carry it all the way home. Asking permission first is the key.
I was taught as a child, under pain of punishment, you never screamed “help” unless you were in trouble and really needed help. I could hoot and holler all I wanted, but help was a word you only used if you needed it. As I grew older, I understood the importance. I was often on job sites with my parents. They couldn’t always have eyes on me at all times. They needed to know when it was really serious, enough so to drop what they were doing, and the other people, working in precarious places around a house being built, didn’t need to be distracted looking for who was screaming and maybe fall or hurt themselves. I did plenty of stupid, painful things, but I only remember screaming for help once, when my Dad dropped a piece of metal and almost cut off his arm. Because I never “cried wolf,” everyone dropped what they were doing and came running, and my Dad got the help he needed in time. If you’re working in an office dealing with regular threats, there needs to be a certain level of decorum. People can deal with stress by telling jokes or sharing funny memes. Jump scares are not appropriate in most workplaces, especially not yours. Your point is valid. It is distracting, startling, and downright intolerable for some people. The thumping and screaming is going to eventually deaden everyone’s response, and sometime when a threat does come, no one will be there to help. Some folks are just sensitive to those sorts of things, and will always be tense and nervous, fearing that it will happen, which doesn’t make for a pleasant work environment, either. I survived a serious domestic violence situation and years of stalking. I don’t appreciate being startled. People around me know better than to even walk up on me quietly, unannounced. If someone violently bursts out to scare me, I am probably going to react to protect myself, before I have a chance to think, and someone’s going to get hurt. It is not at all professional, nor fair for the ones who don’t enjoy the nonsense. It sounds like something which should be escalated to HR, if the supervisor will not handle it.
AITJ For Not Liking My Brother's Dog?
1 year ago
I work around dogs. Dogs with well-adjusted families and reasonably established routines are almost always the neatest, most tidy dogs, even if they’re high energy dogs. Those dogs almost always deliberately choose an area in their yards to toilet where they won’t have to run through it, and wouldn’t dream of going in the house unless it was a dire accident. Dogs who have no routine, and owners they, and everyone else, know don’t really give a bleep about them, who have exasperated family members stepping in to try and take care of them, but hating every moment of it, they know that, and they begin to shut down and not care. Think a person with severe depression who has trouble getting up and taking care of him/herself, showering and doing basic hygiene. Dogs are sensitive animals. Those things affect them. If your brother won’t step up, and you/your family continues to be exasperated with the dog, he should be rehomed somewhere that he can be loved and appreciated the way he should be, where he can be healthy body and mind.
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