People Are Open To Hearing Different Opinions On Their "Am I The Jerk?" Stories

"F27, he is M28. We’re both super into fitness and wellness and have been before we met. I go to the gym 4-6 days per week and am super happy with my current health and physique. My health is extremely important to me and while I don’t consider my diet to be restrictive, some might.

I eat primarily whole foods and I don’t drink booze or eat refined sugar except for special occasions (vacations, weddings, etc). I never was really one to crave desserts, but in the past few months, I have been having odd cravings for warm chocolate chip cookies. Not pregnant, just craving cookies lol.

So I started making cookie dough and freezing it, and now most nights a week I make a warm cookie before bed. It hasn’t really impacted my fitness, energy levels, etc, so I’m gonna keep having my night-time cookie until/unless I stop wanting them.

My husband didn’t say anything in the beginning but now that it’s become a habit, he is not happy. He told me that he feels like I’m starting to value my health less and he feels like this will be a “slippery slope” to eating unhealthy.

He said he’s especially concerned since we’re “not getting any younger.”

I reminded him that I’ve never had any issue maintaining a healthy diet and that a cookie a day is nothing to be concerned about, but he keeps making comments about his concern that I’m “changing.”

He’s continued to make comments about it for weeks, and eventually, I snapped and said that I’m healthy, that my diet is absolutely none of his business, and that he needs to stay in his lane and shut up about the cookies. He got super upset and told me I was being too harsh on him and has been down ever since.

AITJ?"

Another User Comments:

"It's great that you and your husband have a shared love of fitness--but, standing alone, it is not a suitable foundation for a relationship. Fitness ups and downs, health problems, changing exercise schedules, and evolving food preferences are just the facts of life.

It's super unrealistic for him to expect that neither of you will ever change in this regard. And I promise that I'm not saying this just because I have long considered a warm chocolate chip cookie to be the perfect dessert. NTJ." JeepersCreepers74

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. Honestly, his reaction to you having one homemade cookie a day in the context of an overall healthy lifestyle is super concerning. His concern is pretty unreasonable and shows a somewhat unhealthy relationship with food and that actually feels more like a slippery slope to me than a cookie.

You definitely did the right thing in standing your ground on this one." hannahkelli

Another User Comments:

"I feel like this relationship isn’t sustainable in the long run. One cookie a day isn’t going to ruin a diet. That one cookie doesn’t negate all the exercise and healthy eating of the day.

But the reason I feel that this isn’t sustainable is because health fluctuates. If he gets this upset over one cookie, how would he feel if OP got pregnant and had some weird pregnancy cravings that aren’t exactly healthy? Or if there was a health scare and OP couldn’t exercise." AnimalGoddess0113