People Are Ready To Debate Their Unsettled "Am I The Jerk?" Issue

By Maddy Heeszel - March 23, 2024 - 1

Are we ever really "ready" for anything in life? We think in, say, one year, five years, 10 years that we'll be ready for a certain moment in our lives. It might be earning a college degree, getting married, having a baby, buying a house, or what have you, but once you actually get to that stage in your life, you might start to backpedal out of fear. But one of the best things we can do is to push forward and remind ourselves that it's us who holds ourselves back. That couldn't be truer in the following scenarios. People are finally coming to terms that they may have made a mistake and are ready to make amends. First, they want to know: were they a jerk? Even though they may be a bit scared, they're ready for a debate. Leave your comments after each story! AITJ = Am I the jerk? NTJ = Not the jerk WIBTJ = Would I be the jerk? YTJ = You're the jerk

25 . AITJ For Getting Upset For Being Charged To Stay At A Friend's Cabin?

Original Story By JustAnotherUserAcct - April 20, 2024

Eneida Nieves

Some better communication upfront would have avoided all this.

"My friend owns a rental property cabin. 6 months ago, he stated that he was going to be at his cabin in January to “check on it.” He invited me and 2 other friends to come visit him during this time since he would be there anyway.

There was no discussion about any of us needing to pay anything other than chipping in for food.

A week before we are all supposed to head out there, he sends us a text saying we each owe $300 since that is what he charged his neighbors when they rented it.

He also inferred that we should feel “lucky” because this is a 25% discount. I’m feeling hurt and mad about this because he wasn’t losing out on rent since he was going to be there anyway and couldn’t rent it for that reason.

There was no upfront discussion about this being a friends' trip and us all deciding to go in on renting out his cabin for the week. I viewed it as an invitation to come stay with him at his cabin since he would be there anyway.

AITJ for being hurt? Should I say anything to him?"

Another User Comments:

"Say no. There was never a discussion about cost when you invited me 6 months ago, except the food. I thought this was a friendly invite, not a business opportunity. I'm now no longer able to make this trip for a variety of reasons." adventuresofViolet

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. He’s the jerk, and he knows it. There’s a reason he waited until the last minute to introduce the cost. Possible response: “The last-minute introduction of a fee means this trip is no longer feasible for me. Have a great time checking on your cabin.” How do your two other friends feel about it?" embopbopbopdoowop

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. Don't go. Just be upfront. "Sorry, I didn't realize we would be paying to stay. Unfortunately, I can't afford it, but have a great time!" That's all you need to say. Just repeat it if he tries to get you to change your mind and give him $300.

"I can't afford it." He's not a very good friend in my opinion." deleted]

People Are Ready To Debate Their Unsettled "Am I The Jerk?" Issue

25 . AITJ For Getting Upset For Being Charged To Stay At A Friend's Cabin?

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