People Question If These 'Am I The Jerk?' Stories Are Over The Line

"My MIL has always caused issues, fights, drama, pain, and suffering. She is a narcissistic person with no remorse for her actions.

My FIL died last year and it was sudden and messy. This touches on financial mistreatment and unfaithfulness.

I also found out she has been trying to meet up with her other Bio son's father to have relations when she has been telling him (M25) that she didn't know who his father was.

When in reality she has known his entire life. She has now also tried to take belongings from the boys to sell, has taken out loans in their names more than once before now without their knowledge, and has started an affair with her married boss to get free accommodation. Also, we are 100% focused on the recovery of funds/ government input to arranging custody/ public trustee management of my husband's brother's funds to ensure this doesn't ever happen again.

Recently my MIL moved away. She left items at everyone's homes in our state, including mine.

My husband and I have been friends our entire life and married for close to a decade with 1 child. His entire family has always hated me, caused issues with me and my husband, and tried to break us up. That seemed to be resolved once our child was born. However, when my FIL suddenly died my MIL changed again, not for the good. She began partying, spending money like crazy and her lies catapulted beyond belief. She has left a decent sum of money plus through the sales of a lot of assets should have been able to comfortably live though always claimed She was broke.

She has a few boys (stepsons including my husband and a couple of bio children) one being severely disabled. He is managed in a care home for which his pension should cover expenses.

Recently something was amiss and I found her old mobile phone. Now don't get me wrong it's not okay to snoop but given a tip-off that my BIL bills had not been paid and he was at risk of homelessness I looked and found that she had not paid a cent since he moved into the facility.

To the sum of almost $20,000. Immediately I knew I had to tell my husband who also informed his other brother. I handed the phone over so he could do more investigation as I'm technologically poor.

Pandora's box has now been opened. They found evidence that she had been living a bad lifestyle, had been unfaithful to their dad for over 10 years before his death, had been embezzling money from her disabled son, sleeping with her other son's friends, and a lot more.

This has now caused extreme distress to my husband and his brother. We now must find the money to repay the care home and they have decided to never speak to her again. My guilt has taken over me as I feel like I have caused this distress. So AITJ?"

Another User Comments:

"NTJ while there's distress from that, it's important to have the truth. ie- embezzling money from her son is messed up, not to mention the whole litany of other issues with no remorse and no regret" User

Another User Comments:

"NTJ Are you asking yourself that question ?! It's better for them if this woman gets out of their lives in my opinion... But their priority should be to take over the guardianship of their brother first." Far_Dependent_8975