People Ask Us To Believe Their Reasons For Their "Am I The Jerk?" Stories

"A few years ago I (25m) was accused of fathering a child with my sister's (23f) best friend. She had some weird obsession with me as we came to find out. This accusation caused a lot of drama in the family including for a time my parents refusing to talk to me for not taking responsibility and having this woman in their house to live.

My stepsister (26f) did something I would never recommend for anyone to do but am sooooo glad that it worked out for me but she outed me to our family as gay. My stepsister is and has been my bff since we were 5 and before our parents were together so she knows everything about me and was only 1 of 2 people who knew.

She did this out of frustration for how they treated me but unfortunately, they thought it was a last-ditch effort to save face until my great-grandma (the other person who knew) came barreling in telling everyone off for their crap and whipping them back into order. (Ironically was diagnosed as infertile a few days after that dilemma)

After all that we found out that my sister was in on this whole weird thing with her friend to baby trap me so her friend could be with me and they could be sisters.

The rest of the family basically disowned her for causing all that. My parents since then have been on thin ice but have actually been very apologetic and honestly I feel like they are overly favoring me to make up for all that.

My sister has apparently made contact with our parents wanting to be part of the family again.

My parents gave me the option of letting her or not. I didn't take any of the options and told them to decide themselves but I did lay down the fact that I would no longer be a part of their lives if they did let her back into the family.

AITJ?"

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. This was a double betrayal by your sister and you should not in any way, shape, or form be forced to spend time with her. Your parents can start planning separate events. Christmas with you, Christmas Eve with her. Swap out birthday celebrations - one of you is there on the actual day for your dad's birthday, one for your mom's, and the other celebrates on a different day.

Divorced parents do this all the time.

I can understand your parents wanting to give your sister a chance - it is truly a difficult thing for many parents to abandon a child and not give them a second chance. You are being completely unselfish for not punishing them for considering letting her back into their lives.

But you absolutely do not have to let her back into yours." Owned_By_3_Kittehs

Another User Comments:

"NTJ - You don't have to forgive your sister unless you are ready or want to. You don't have to have any interaction with her. I don't blame you for saying what you did to your parents by 'allowing' her back into the family.

She caused you a lot of problems when you did nothing wrong. Good grief. If she wanted to be a 'sister' to someone... just BE a sister in the first place.

We all 'make' family with people who are good to us and whom we love.

I don't know what these young women thought they were doing! But they were awful, horrible liars and have they done anything to show that they are contrite for what they did? Beg forgiveness for instance? I wouldn't trust them ever again. Some things people do are almost unforgivable.... except in the case of healing your own heart. Be well and stay safe!" orangeupurple1