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Just because she wasn't diagnosed, doesn't mean she doesn't have it. A lot of people with mental illness, even physical illness go undiagnosed. So dumb of a comment. The "partying" is her way of escaping reality, which is usually due to untreated mental illnesses.
YTJ, my mom used to tell my siblings and I how we felt. She used to tell us what was wrong with us rather than ask. That's called gaslighting and manipulation. You don't get to tell another how they feel or don't feel. Also, ppd is self diagnosable. It happens to a lot of women. Huge change in hormones. In a way, giving birth is like a loss. You are losing hormones, gaining hormones, you get used to the feelings of carrying around a baby, feeling the amazing feelings of kicks and hiccups. Rubbing your belly a d feeling your baby in their. Yes, we are excited to finally meet baby, but it comes at a bit of a price. Also, sometimes the pregnancy and birth process is excruciating. They say 6 weeks to heal? Yeah right! 6 weeks my ass! 10 months later, I'm still feeling sharp pains where I had my incision. My c section was an emergency, it was a bit scary. Women experience child birth differently and FU to tell her how she should feel. Women are always encouraged to talk to their Dr's if they are experiencing ppd especially, because it does lead to neglect and sometimes suicide and/or homicide. The wanting to take off could very well be a part of it. A lot of people with severe depression want to be "anywhere but here". I agree however, she does need to talk to someone, and just because she hasn't been diagnosed by a Dr, like comment under mine, doesn't mean she doesn't have it, it just means she hasn't told the Dr's how she's been feeling. She needs to get help. Seriously though, NEVER tell anyone their feelings are invalid just because your experience is different. That alone makes you the jerk.
Your family are jerks. I couldn't imagine not learning a new way of communicating with my daughter if that happened. I'm really failing to see how this is an inconvenience. I mean if they learned, they could find they enjoy it. I think your family needs therapy. I don't blame you nit wanting them over. Stick to your guns on that one.
YTJ. Your kids should be able to cope. They should be able to understand that when a foster child comes in to the home, they may leave. You can't force them not to have their own kids. I'm sure if your ex and his wife were to ask, they'd allow your kids and the foster kids some sort of visitations after returning home. You told them how the kids felt, nothing more you can do, leave it alone. They are doing a good thing for these kids. It could also teach your kids some compassion as well.
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