People Want To See If We Can Handle Their Tough "Am I The Jerk" Stories

"I (17 f) have a sister Rebecca (29 f) who has three kids - Lori (8 f), Cami (7 f), and Tray (7 m).

I babysit them and they are really good kids. I like to bring over toys when I babysit, all of their favorites are dolls. We also like watching shows and movies from doll brands.

Rebecca is a vlogger with the whole 'beige aesthetic.' It isn't my style but it's not my business either.

Now that I have a job and get paid for babysitting (plus a store discount for what I buy there) it is the first year I can really buy people gifts on my own for Christmas. Most of it I got months ago. I got each of Rebecca's kid's two dolls and something extra.

I don't think there's anything wrong with them. I got Lori a signature Monster High g3 Frankie doll, a winter Poppy Rainbow High doll, and a Rainbow Dash necklace. I got Cami a neon frights g3 Monster High Toralei doll, a LOL OMG doll (I don't know the name) with kinda a camo outfit, and a pop-it purse. I got Tray a Rainbow High Dahlia, a Disney Tiana ballet doll, and Lisa Frank stickers. All of these are child-friendly and cater to what they which I would know from my time with them.

When Rebecca heard I got them gifts she wanted to see them.

I showed her and she said that I should have known them (she used the word 'us') better than that and not gotten those things. She told me to return them (which I can't return most of due to how and when I got them) and get something else that before buying I prove with her. I got mad and asked what was wrong with what I got and she called them 'disgusting' and said that they 'don't fit in with anything.'

I told her that she might not be into those things but that they aren't for her so her preferences aren't a factor and that her kids deserve to be happy.

She got mad and said that they were happy and stormed out. Our mom is siding with Rebecca and said that if I really don't want to buy something else I can just sign on with her gifts. I really don't want to. I got them gifts that they deserve to have and I don't understand why I shouldn't just give them to them. But I could be wrong, no one agrees with me."

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. Her children aren't props in her home. They are living, breathing human beings with their own preferences and they deserve to have the things they like for Christmas. You clearly know them a lot better and if you know they would be over the moon for your gifts, then I can't see why the kids shouldn't have them.

The whole 'they don't fit in with anything' is a disgusting reason to reject your kid's happiness. Kids' toys are bright and colorful because that is what they respond to. They respond to color and sounds and if you guys have watched the shows on TV, they already know the characters and thus it's a perfect gift for them.

Our children's cousin this year wishes for something called a Magic Mixxie (it's like a cauldron where you mix in some stuff and a stuffed animal comes out). I feel like it's a one-off thing and she can't use it again, so I think it's a stupid thing to get, but we got it for her because that's what she wished for.

Our opinions do not matter. Only the kid's!" Bimodal_Shrimp

Another User Comments:

"NTJ. Your comment about the kids deserving to be happy was a step too far - I can see how your sister would interpret that as an attack. But she shouldn’t be so bratty and entitled that she thinks she can dictate what others buy as gifts.

She should be grateful that you care enough about the kids to spend your money on them.

She should be grateful that she has a trustworthy babysitter who cares about her kids." sol_lilja