People Rebel In These "Am I The Jerk?" Stories

"I recently lost my job and have been applying to various positions. A former coworker of mine was also fired at about the same time, and he recently got a job working at an adult store. He and I have become good buddies, and when he told me about the job, how much fun it is, and that they’re still hiring, I was like, "Awesome!" I went and applied, and while it’s not official yet, it does look like I’ll get the job. The problem is, when I told my mom about the job, she flipped. She says she doesn’t want me working at an adult store, claiming there are too many “seedy people.” We’ve been arguing about it. I think it’s super unfair for her to dictate where I can and can’t work. I’m an adult (24f), and I feel perfectly comfortable working at an adult store. Also, my parents have given me a few months to move out, and this job is closer to where I plan to be living when I move. Not to mention that I think it will be fun working with that coworker again, as we had a lot of fun together at our previous job. We’ve been butting heads about this, and I’ve basically been telling her, "No, I’m going to take this job, and you can’t tell me not to." AITJ?" Another User Comments: "Her concerns are valid according to her point of view. There was a time, heck, in some places it still is, where intimacy is a taboo in society. Something that has to be within the walls of the house. Hence, anything related to enjoying intimacy is hushed up. Also, due to this being a taboo, the only people who visited such places were termed to be sleazy or seedy people. This can be the mindset that your mom carries, and she is concerned that you can get hurt working in such a place. But now the times have changed; people have become more accepting of such places. So she is not the jerk for caring, and you definitely are not one wanting to work there. It’s just a bit of a communication issue and also some time needed by your parents to understand your line of work." lenin-sagar Another User Comments: "No jerks here. Perfectly within your rights to work where you choose. You’re an adult and responsible for supporting yourself, and you outlined the reasonable upsides of this job. That said, I went with no jerks here over NTJ because it sounds like your mom is concerned for your well-being and safety, as opposed to a jerk reason (“What will the neighbors think?!” etc.). Whether or not those concerns are valid, it sounds like they’re coming from a good place. Have you tried deescalating the conversation and having more of a heart-to-heart with her? 'Mom, I love you and understand that you’re concerned about my safety with this new job. I heard your concerns and talked to the coworker who recommended it. He assured me that the customers are chill and respectful, albeit a little quirky, and that if anyone is making us uncomfortable, our managers have no problem kicking them out. There are a lot of upsides to the job and location, and quite frankly, I need the work. Any job can have creeps, but I feel better knowing my coworkers have my back and that I won’t have a problem reporting any bad seeds.'" jbillinois